A difficult character is, in essence, an inadequacy of response and, accordingly, unpredictability.

They don’t joke with fire, not because he doesn’t understand jokes, but because fire has an inadequate reaction to jokes

Sometimes pointless fear develops into pointless panic;

panic is accompanied by inadequate forms.

It is not enough to find a non-standard solution,

We still need to find an inadequate performer.

The world is not to blame that EVERYONE perceives it in their own way, that is, inadequately.

If a person inadequately treats different personalities, if he is unfriendly to them

perceives, this is a sign that his understanding of friendship is very narrow.

And the narrower the understanding of friendship in a person, the easier it is to become his enemy.

Inadequacy as a quality of a person is the inability to correspond to something with words, actions, deeds.

Telephone conversation: Hello! Is this a repair shop? - Good afternoon! Yes. - My fridge is broken. Are you far away from him? — No, nearby. - Open the door and stick the tube inside so I can listen and see ... - Well, what do you say now? - What a moron you are!

In psychiatry, inadequacy is understood as the inconsistency of individual mental acts or their combination with external circumstances. For example, in schizophrenia, paranoia is characterized by emotional inadequacy, i.e. strange and incomprehensible emotional reactions to external events, or lack of reactions to events that should have caused them. In ordinary life, inappropriate behavior is observed in people suffering from psycho-neurological pathology, alcohol and drug addiction, as well as in adolescence in the form of behavior that deviates from social norms of behavior.

Clinical manifestations of inadequacy are diagnosed by a specialist - a psychiatrist, and in everyday life - by anyone who is not satisfied with the behavior of another person. The pride of an egoist requires that everything must be controlled, people must live up to his expectations, must live according to his ideas about life, must be the same as him. They have no right to be different. If close people deviate from his model of the world, he is offended, condemns and tries to turn the tide. If others “sin” with freethinking, then they are inadequate.

The label "Inadequacy" can be attached to almost any person if his words and deeds do not fit into the picture of the world of others. A bunch of conformists, seeing dissent, will say that their actions are illogical, potentially dangerous and poorly predictable, and Voltaires, Copernicuses and Einsteins will instantly be enrolled in the “detachment of inadequate” human beings. Given our past with the "treatment" of dissent in an extensive system of psychiatric hospitals, people experience fear at the word "inadequacy". Serious mental illnesses are one thing, but they are well aware of the grave fateful consequences that an unfounded, undeserved or thoughtless accusation of a person of inappropriate behavior can lead to. An individual, according to conformists, is inadequate if she crossed the line, stood up for the flags. The party apparatus considered Vladimir Vysotsky inadequate, always kept a free bed for him in a psychiatric hospital, but was afraid of the dangerous “wolf”: “The wolf must not, cannot otherwise! Here my time ends. The one I'm destined for Smiled and raised his gun. I got out of control. For the flags - the thirst for life is stronger! Only from behind I joyfully heard the surprised cries of people.
Recently, an inconspicuous, humble person appeared in a Russian church who wished to serve at the altar completely disinterestedly - to serve a censer, to light candles. It was a St. Petersburg criminal authority, a thief in law and a successful businessman rolled into one. One glance of his led many in awe and horror. The priest says: “The Lord is merciful to everyone and wants to save everyone. He also knocked on the heart of a lost person, baptized in childhood, and awakened his conscience. This Authority frequented one of the cloisters, where he repeatedly confessed his gloomy deeds with tears, and grace touched him and began to visibly change: his face brightened, his behavior changed, in dealing with others and subordinates he became completely different. The abbot of the monastery blessed him to serve at the altar during the service. He began to give the priest a censer, clean the altar, and emphasized his reverence for the holy place by taking off his shoes from his feet when he entered the altar. Rumors spread around the city in certain circles: “Is it true,” the gangsters asked each other, “that our Authority serves in the temple?” “Yes,” answered the priests who knew this, “and we are very pleased with him.” The lads shook their heads meaningfully and wondered. But some time passed, and the Authority was shot from machine guns in his car in Moscow. There were reports in the newspapers that, they say, in the redistribution of the sphere of influence, such and such was killed, but it seems to me that this is not so. The thieves in the law of the spiritual growth of their comrade and boss could not forgive. It can be seen that it is one thing to shower the temple with money, to donate for the construction of chapels and temples, but to part with sins and change your life is quite another. Giving money is one thing, but serving and cleaning the altar is another. They couldn't forgive him for that."

From the positions of the lads, the behavior of the thief in law was inadequate, and if so, there is nothing to disgrace the “glorious” name of the criminal Authority. As you know, people adhere to different concepts of happiness - for an alcoholic it is in a bottle, for a drug addict - in a dose, for a benevolent person - in selfless service to other people. Being on different life platforms, they classify each other's behavior in different ways. Inadequacy in everyday communication without taking into account the life concept of a person, the environment of which he is a representative, turns into the imposition of stereotypes, prejudices and dogmas. Put an American at the table, he and his feet on the table. If you don’t know that he is an American, why are you not a candidate for being inadequate? In other words, inadequacy, excluding clinical cases and the state of affect, is extremely subjective, tendentious and dependent on the life platform on which the “appraiser” stands.

In the series "Lone Wolf" there is such an episode. The good hero is kidnapped by representatives of the world of ignorance and forced to play Russian roulette under a gun in front of spectators who have made bets on life or death. Before the "performance" a prostitute is brought to his room. According to their expectations, the guy should immediately jump out of his shorts, and suddenly they see a refusal. This is shocking, and they conclude that it is inadequate. In this circle, his behavior did not fit into the framework of established and familiar concepts.

Almost everyone behaves inappropriately when frightened, strong fear, excitement. A person sometimes needs time to overcome sticky fear, to cope with strong excitement. The interval between the action of the stimulus and the reaction to it is the most favorable time for the manifestation of inadequacy. Most people overcome fear and excitement, returning to their usual adequate state.

Inadequacy manifests itself most clearly when a person cannot adapt to environment, adapt to different life situations. Parable in the context of this thesis. A crow sits on a tree. A hare runs past. He saw that the crow was sitting, shouting to her: - Crow, what are you doing there? - I'm not doing anything. “Oh, can I also sit here and do nothing?” - Go ahead, oblique! Well, the hare sat under a tree, also does nothing, it catches the buzz. But then suddenly a fox runs past, like a hare grabs by the side. The hare shouts to the crow: - Well, you promised that you could sit and do nothing! Crow: - Yes, but I forgot to add: in order to do nothing, you have to sit high!

Inadequacy is a deeply internal quality of a person, manifested in a persistent inability to correspond to something that worries and worries a person. Therefore, it is correct and correct to speak of internal inadequacy, when, for example, a person's actions do not agree with conscience. Inadequacy attributed from the outside, like a label, is just someone's subjective assessment, someone's preconceived opinion.

Internal inadequacy causes pangs of conscience, disagreements between the soul and the mind, constant skirmishes between the coveted mind and the impartial mind. For example, a person does not know how to control the “talk” of the mind. Thoughts hover in his head like a free bird and, without the participation of the mind, end up on the tongue. Having spoken nonsense, he then reproaches himself for incontinence, experiencing a state of internal inadequacy.

Inadequacy is defectiveness, ugliness of character or lack of "brakes" of conscience and reason. Adequacy is always the correspondence of something to something. If a person is at odds with his conscience and reason, then his actions do not meet their requirements, therefore, he is internally inadequate. What prevents him from being adequate to the voice of the heart and the requirements of the mind? First of all, selfishness. Ego strikes the mind and its tentacles - the feelings of a person, permeates all of his consciousness. Having committed some bad deed under the influence of selfish feelings and emotions, for example, deceit or treason, a person after a while hears the voice of conscience, experiences psychological discomfort. The content of his act does not meet the requirements of the internal controller - conscience, which is evidence of internal inadequacy.

Petr Kovalev

13 signs of an inadequate person. Signs by which it can be assumed that a person is inadequate are individual, depend on the type of personality, character, type of higher nervous activity. But still there are certain features that make it possible to suspect an inadequate person and further confirm this assumption. Our task is to identify the inadequate as early as possible, preferably even before the start of communication with the person, in order to then correct their behavior and be prepared for the fact that this person may behave unpredictably or try to create problems. Do you know why a person behaves inappropriately? So what are the features inappropriate behavior we should note: 1) Unexpectedly and unpredictably reacts to the actions and words of others. 2) Twitches, shows signs of anxiety, rushes about, often changes posture, facial expression. 3) Excessively emotional, too brightly colored speech, "theatrical" intonations. 4) Active gestures, playing "one-man theatre". 5) Inability to listen to others: a person expresses his opinion, often inappropriate, interrupts interlocutors, does not listen to their point of view. 6) Fancy, often flashy clothes. Marginal style, mismatched colors. 7) Inappropriate style of clothing for the institution or event (for example, a person in a T-shirt and shorts, who came to a business meeting or official reception). 8) Fancy hairstyle or hair dyed in a bright color. 9) Tattoos, piercings, many rings on the fingers, earrings in the ears of men. 10) The use of "criminal" expressions in speech ("purely concrete", "without a bazaar"). 11) Unnecessarily abstruse statements out of place, in simple communication(for example, in an everyday conversation, such an inadequate person can say “relying on the basic foundations of our constructive dialogue with you, I draw a representative conclusion about the following conclusions”). The complex grammatical construction is completely out of place, it looks ridiculous and funny. 12) Pay attention to the person's car, if possible. Cars with tinted windows, loud music, hung spoilers, sills, fenders and other decorative elements are a sign of an often inadequate car owner. 13) People with medical education can notice in a person a number of symptoms characteristic of mental illness, such as epileptoid personality traits, the symptom complex of a psychoorganic syndrome, schizophrenoid traits. But a person who is not connected with medicine is unlikely to be able to navigate this. Remember, when communicating with a person, you should be careful: note not only what he says to you, but also how he does it, with what intonation, facial expressions, what words he chooses. Pay special attention to the little things, including the posture of the interlocutor, the position of the hands, whether he is twitching or calm. The more information you have about the interlocutor, the more accurate your conclusions about him will be. In any case, do not jump to conclusions before making a decision, evaluate all the facts you have. If we are talking about a business partnership with a person whose adequacy is in doubt, arrange for him an imperceptible check that will help you draw the necessary conclusions and avoid serious problems. There are no absolute criteria for an inadequate person: each of the listed “symptoms” can only be a personality trait. However, in extreme manifestations, these features lead to the development of inadequate behavior. Therefore, you must approach the assessment of the available facts and data individually in each case.

Reasons for inadequacy

In order to identify the factors that give rise to inappropriate behavior, it is necessary to understand what the concept of "adequacy" means. The definition of this term is rather vague, since the boundary between abnormality and norm is often erased. For example, a certain manner of behavior in one person seems organic and normal to others, but in another subject it causes condemnation and rejection. Excessive extravagance of a young person will be taken as a manifestation of individuality and style, a similar image in an elderly lady will cause ridicule and censure. In other words, the society will consider an elderly lady in an extravagant outfit that is not suitable age period, inadequate.

The inadequacy of behavior, from the standpoint of psychological science, is a behavioral response that does not correspond to the surrounding reality, deviating from the generally established normative postulates and rules.

Simply put, inadequacy means a deviation of behavior, claims of a person, his plans from the limits of established norms, elementary prudence, beyond the limits of behavior that is considered natural to obtain the optimal result, mutually beneficial for the subjects that are included in the interaction.

Inadequacy differs from recklessness in that a stupid individual makes mistakes and acts incorrectly due to delusions, misunderstanding of things, skewed ideas towards an irrational view. At the same time, there is a certain motivation in his behavior. In other words, the actions of such subjects are incorrect, but quite understandable.

Inadequate individuals commit unacceptable and abnormal acts intentionally, realizing this. Acting inappropriately, the subject consciously seeks to destroy or deform the established norms of society in his own favor in order to obtain a certain benefit, material or psychological.

The state of inadequacy may occur due to the following factors:

– congenital personality traits;

- individual character traits (egocentrism, gambling, leadership qualities, hyperbolized sex drive);

– social living conditions;

- economic well-being;

- position in society;

- family relationships;

- strong stress;

- psychological trauma;

– severe ailments, injuries;

- interpersonal relationships, for example, interaction with an individual showing a negative behavior pattern;

- mental disorders;

- an excess of responsibilities (the need to meet norms and standards, reduced deadlines for completing tasks force people to take on an excessive number of responsibilities, the fear of being unable to achieve what was planned is poorly reflected in behavioral response);

- consumption of alcoholic beverages;

- drug addiction.

There can be a lot of reasons that provoke the inadequacy of behavior, in addition to those given. However, it must be remembered that often the essence of the problem is multifaceted and multicomponent.

Signs of inadequacy

There are many signs of inadequacy, but it is necessary to consider it comprehensively. Individuals should not be labeled as inadequate by finding only one of the following manifestations.

The state of inadequacy is expressed in the following actions. And above all, it is found in unpredictable mood swings of a polar nature ( Bad mood replaced by euphoria, good - bad), unexpected response to people (unnecessarily impulsive behavior). The facial expressions and gestures of an individual who is in the described state do not correspond to what is happening. Such subjects are characterized by excessive theatricality, fussiness, excessive gesticulation, or, on the contrary, unnatural calmness that does not correspond to the situation, a frozen, unblinking look directly into the eyes of the interlocutor.

An inadequate person tends to interrupt the conversation, does not listen to their arguments and judgments, may not listen to others at all, or voice his own opinion off topic. Peremptory statements often slip through. Individuals in a state of inadequacy often express opinions that are completely inappropriate. They can translate the subject of conversation in a completely different direction. They talk more about themselves. Their speech is filled with swear words, rude expressions, slang turns. In addition, they can use demonstratively abstruse sentences in everyday everyday conversation.

In appearance, inappropriate selection of clothes, a style that does not correspond to the event or setting, pretentious or defiant outfits are noted. Appearance also undergoes changes: brightly colored curls, an unusual hairstyle that causes makeup. In the sons of Adam, inadequacy is manifested in excessive piercings, "tunnels" in the auricles, many tattoos, scarring.

Inadequate people tend to perceive "with hostility" any judgments and ideas of opponents during a conversation, regardless of their argumentation and logic. They are also characterized by increased resentment, an inadequate reaction to friendly banter, jokes, harmless jokes.

Inadequacy of behavior can be expressed in aggressiveness, suspicion, motor disinhibition, suicidal attempts or a tendency to self-harm, immoral acts, antisocial actions, conflict, violation of social interaction, categorical statements.

Affect of inadequacy

The described phenomenon is a stable negative emotional condition, which arises as a result of failure, failure and is characterized by ignoring the fact of a fiasco or unwillingness to accept responsibility for failure. It arises as a result of conditions that entailed the subject's need to preserve his incorrectly formed high self-esteem and an overestimated degree of claims.

To admit one's own inadequacy for an individual means to go against the existing need to preserve one's own self-esteem. However, he does not want to allow this. From here, an inadequate response to one's failure is born, manifested in the form of affective behavioral reactions.

The affect of inadequacy is a kind of defensive reaction that allows you to get out of confrontation at the cost of deviating an adequate perception of reality: the individual saves a high degree claims and inflated self-esteem, while avoiding the understanding of their own insolvency, which became the cause of failure, avoiding the emerging fluctuations regarding their own skills.

The affect of inadequacy may be limited to one area of ​​the individual's claims, however, it may be of a generalized nature, taking over the personality of the subject as a whole. Children in the described state are characterized by distrust, aggressiveness, resentment, suspicion and negativism. Prolonged stay of the baby in such a state leads to the development of appropriate qualities of character.

Affective babies are often in a steady confrontation with the teaching staff and peers. Therefore, they try in various ways to compensate for their own bad positions, they try to attract sympathy for their individuality and attention, thereby striving to satisfy their own claims to good positions, to justify personal self-esteem. Such actions put such kids in absolute subordination to the opinion of the environment, dependence on approval, evaluation by the team. Such bondage can be expressed in two limiting manifestations: in the ultimate susceptibility to group influence and negativistic resistance to group influence. In an adult, the presence of a stable affect of inadequacy is often due to personality traits.

"Something's wrong with your head"

When someone's behavior is alert, frightening, or bewildering, people say, "He's got something in his head." With this in mind mental disorder. Let's see why people behave strangely. And whether every case of strange behavior necessarily needs to be treated by a doctor.

We, as a rule, evaluate someone else's behavior on the basis of our own experience, ideas about the norms of public morality, as well as those rules that we are used to following. For example, "I would be ashamed to behave the way that girl behaves"; “I will be ready to fall through the ground (I will fight, get angry, get scared, I will feel guilty - underline as necessary) if they treat me like that”; “you can’t swear, undress, shout in public places”; “Children must obey their parents in everything”; “It is ugly to gesticulate violently in the company of unfamiliar people”; and so on.

If someone's behavior, from our point of view, goes beyond the acceptable limit, we unconsciously feel anxiety, because we cannot predict this behavior. After all, if we are with such a subject in the same room, we can easily get into an awkward or dangerous situation, since he is not able to regulate his own impulses. In addition, our own personal boundaries are threatened: if a person does not feel the distance that must be observed, he can easily invade our personal space and cause pain. In the situation of the presence of such a person nearby, we feel discomfort and, if we can’t get out of the situation, we are all the time in perceptible tension, being forced to control the environment.

Apparent conduct disorder

Mental patients, being in a state of acute psychosis, may perceive the environment incorrectly, or not perceive it at all. They can act solely under the influence of “voices” or delusional ideas sounding inside them, simply sweeping away from their path everything that interferes with the implementation of their plans. Getting in the way of such a patient can be deadly.

A person's behavior may not comply with accepted standards for a number of other reasons, starting with alcohol, drug or drug intoxication and ending with an acute affective reaction.

People who have been behaving aggressively, strangely or pretentiously for many years, as a rule, have either a severe personality pathology or a severe mental disorder that changes the perception of the world, thinking and (or) behavior. And this is the case when the presence of mental problems is obvious. However, this is not always the case.

Periodic problems

There are a number of mental disorders in which the behavior of a sick person outwardly seems absolutely normal. And you will never guess that in front of you is a person whose behavior may be inadequate - of course, if you do not spend some time with him or find yourself in a close relationship. As a rule, the underlying problems of people with periodic conduct disorders are associated with addictions, mood swings, personality pathology of the borderline or narcissistic types, or paroxysmal course of mental illness.

There are cases of twilight disorders of consciousness, when an outwardly absolutely calm person committed a serious crime, being unable to realize this. Sleepy states, ambulatory trances, somnambulism in many cases do not at all cause suspicion that a person does not understand what he is doing or does not control his actions.

Cravings for drug or alcohol use are known for their ability to cause a sick person to periodically manipulate others, as well as to perform strange, illogical or dangerous acts in order to get Chemical substance which he wants to use.

Psychoses with visual or auditory hallucinations, delusional disorders with an intermittent or remitting (periodic) course, psychopathy and sociopathy may not manifest themselves outside of an acute episode. We see a normal person with some not very disturbing character traits (and who doesn’t have them?), and often very kind and very attractive at all - and we cannot even imagine that the time will come when his behavior will be unbearable and even dangerous. .

"Quiet Madness"

In the most severe cases, emergency medical psychiatric care is required, sometimes associated with the need to involve police officers and the Ministry of Emergencies, guardianship and guardianship authorities to send a sick person for treatment.

Call a psychiatrist

In medicine, especially military medicine, the following principle is well known: first of all, they examine those who scream less and ask for help. This is due to the fact that a person who is in a state of shock, helplessness or depressed consciousness, due to the severity of the damage, is not able to ask for help. And if you miss the moment, the case can end in death. All doctors know that the most seriously ill patients do not ask for help. They are silent.

Psychiatry is no exception to the general rule. First of all, help should be provided to those patients from the last category: silent, depressive, in a state of acute delirium or acute hallucinosis; lonely dementia patients who closed themselves in their homes and are unable to serve themselves due to their condition. Therefore, if one of your neighbors or acquaintances suddenly disappeared, it may very well be that trouble has happened to him and he needs professional medical help.

Often people are prevented from providing this timely assistance to a mentally ill person by elementary fear (“yes, he’ll be attacked again”), disgust or prejudice. In this regard, the main thing to remember is that mental patients are people just like everyone else. The same, but permanently living in extreme situation that their mental disorder has created for them. They, like the rest, if it were in their power, would choose a quiet adequate life. Vedas absolutely no one wants to have problems - neither with enemies, nor with health. It is precisely in order to solve their problems that mentally ill people struggle with those intrigues of fate that, as they see, have fallen to their lot. And these "intrigues" are precisely the manifestations of mental illness: the "voices" of enemies; persecutors knocking on doors and threatening to kill; those around them who are plotting something bad against them, and so on. And even if we decide to help, then to talk about whether a person is hungry, whether he is healthy, how long ago he slept for the last time, it may not work the first time, since all his thoughts and feelings are focused on getting rid of the threats looming over him.

Psychiatrists have to talk to such patients every day. There are situations when it is impossible to provide help without medical treatment. Therefore, in a situation of severe mental disorder, the best thing you can do for yourself or your loved one is to consult a psychiatrist.

What to do if a person closed in an apartment

Try to carefully ask friends or neighbors about when they last saw him and what condition he was in; what he talked about and whether he talked at all; how he looked and how he behaved. Write a statement about the incident to the district police on whose territory the allegedly ill person lives. If you really want, then carefully, by indirect signs, try to determine whether the one you are looking for is at home. If you have adequate contact with him, try to offer your help by phone. However, avoid being intrusive or looming near the door to his apartment - in the case of a delusional psychosis, you may be considered an enemy, and some kind of weapon will suddenly be used on you. It is better, in the absence of an answer, to entrust such actions to the police. The powers of the latter include the obligation to call a psychiatrist to persons suffering from mental disorders.

For other groups of people behaving inappropriately

there is a following rule. If a person behaves in such a way that one can suspect that he has a mental disorder, psychiatric help can be provided to him without his consent only when his actions pose an immediate danger to himself or others. This is recorded in Article 23 of the Law "On Psychiatric Care and Guarantees for Citizens in its Provision". In other cases, assistance is provided only by court order. An application to the court is filed by a psychiatrist (district), who is receiving at the dispensary, or by a doctor in the emergency room of the hospital, if the patient was brought there.

Thus, the right course of action against a person alleged to be suffering mental disorder, the following:

1. Ensure your own safety
2. Call the police if a person violates public order or someone's rights
3. Submit a written application to the psychiatric dispensary at the place of residence of the patient

In conclusion, I would like to note that someone's strange behavior never means a mandatory call to a psychiatrist or hospitalization in a psychiatric hospital. Perhaps the person has suffered a mental trauma, severe stress or emotional shock; maybe he lost his nerve, he is offended, angry, annoyed or humiliated. This condition is called "acute affective reaction." Over time, this condition can go away on its own: the person himself will find a way out of the situation. Inappropriate behavior may be due to the fact that he is in a state of alcoholic or drug intoxication, and his inappropriate behavior is associated with this. And this, too, will pass without outside help without examination and hospitalization.

And there is another very important thought that I would like to express. Please remember that in any case, you are solely responsible for your own safety. Try to ensure this safety for yourself first. Do not try to help people who are not helpless. Especially if you are not asked to. If you really want to help a mental patient, call a specialist to him. And then everything will be all right.

In our life, we very often hear the phrases "adequate reaction", "inadequate man" and various others related to the concept of "adequate" or "inadequate". Let's try to understand what these terms mean.

Adequacy

Adequate behavior is behavior that is understandable to others and does not run counter to generally accepted norms, corresponds to the situation and the expectations of others. In any society there are generally accepted ones. So, an adequate person will behave in accordance with these standards, perform actions expected by others. For example, if he entered the trolley bus and sat on the seat, this is adequate behavior, but if he lies on the floor in the trolley bus, this is inadequacy. Please note that all these norms are external, created by public opinion. That is, in adequate, a person lives according to external guidelines and is not always guided by his feelings and desires. In other words, he knows how to control himself. For example, you liked a handbag from a neighbor, you have wanted one for a long time, but you won’t go to take it away. In fact, adequacy is a rather relative concept, because in different religions or countries moral norms may differ, for example, if in the East it is customary to drink tea while sitting on the floor, then somewhere in Europe, say, in London, it will be at least least strange. And if a person behaves correctly, in your opinion, this does not mean at all that other people will also consider this normal. In general, all people are inadequate to one degree or another, certainly from time to time they commit such acts.

inadequacy

In psychology, an inadequate person is a person who reacts to an event in a non-standard way, contrary to generally accepted norms of morality. The reaction, emotions and behavior of such a person do not correspond to the situation. For example, a positive event causes negative emotions in a person. It may become inadequate temporarily, for example, in a state of alcoholic or drug intoxication, in some critical situation. Or it may be his permanent state of consciousness, in which case it is already a disease, such as schizophrenia.

Types of inappropriate behavior

Depending on the ways of manifestation, inappropriate behavior can be divided into several types: deviant, victim, delinquent, conflict, erroneous and demonstrative. Let's consider each of these species separately and draw a conclusion.

deviant state

We can talk about deviant principles if inadequate person regularly commits acts that go against generally accepted norms. This type of behavior includes: drug addiction, alcoholism, crime, prostitution and so on. According to scientists, the probability of deviations definitely increases with the weakening of the normative control that occurs at the social level.

Victim inadequate state

This is when an individual provokes to cause some harm, creates a dangerous situation for him. For example, a girl in a short skirt gets into a car at night with a company of tipsy hooligans. A person can behave defiantly, not suspecting that he himself can begin to provoke danger.

Delinquent state

This is when acts are committed that can cause any harm to both society and the individual. Adolescent delinquency should be emphasized here. Examples of inappropriate behavior of this type include petty offenses, drinking alcohol and using swear words in public places, petty hooliganism, and even breaking the rules. traffic. By the way, absence from the workplace for an unexcused reason or coming to work in a state of intoxication are also examples of delinquent behavior.

conflict state

This, as you probably already guessed, is behavior when an inadequate person tries to provoke a scandal or create conflict situation. Lives by the principle "if you don't attack, they will attack you".

Error state

Directed away from the desired target. For example, when a person in childhood found a way that was successful for a child to solve some life problem, and it turned out to be effective, repeated many times, consolidated thanks to repetitions, and now it is repeated by an adult, although this has long been a reaction. An inadequate reaction is when a child was constantly scolded in childhood, and he got used to constantly making excuses, grew up and realized that he no longer needs to make excuses, but he still continues to do it. Behind such maneuverability of a psychologically healthy person are often the following reasons: physical problems, accident, bad manners, incompetence, and provocations of the environment.

Demonstrative state

This is when any bright, memorable actions are committed, in which there is a noticeable desire to attract attention to oneself by any means, regardless of the opinions of others. This behavior is sometimes very convenient to use in order to achieve some goal. This is especially true for women, because they love to attract attention. Demonstrative behavior is not always inadequate, very often it remains within the normal range.

Types of inadequacy

By types, inadequacy can be conditionally divided into absolute, formal and relative. Formal - this is when a person does not comply with generally accepted norms of behavior, violates the rules. This includes the same mat in public places. Relative inadequacy lies in the characteristics of a particular individual and may even be invisible to society. The absolute is divided into conscious and unconscious. The inadequacy of the conscious type is when a person completely controls his actions, clearly knows what he is doing, and expects an appropriate reaction from the people around him. That is, such a person behaves inadequately quite consciously. It is always a challenge to public opinion, the moral standards accepted in society. This is how politicians, tyrants-bosses can behave. For example, singers or actors perform such acts in order to shock the public, and cause a general discussion. The unconscious type of inadequacy is considered the most dangerous and is somewhere on the verge of serious personality disorders. Such an individual is not aware of his actions, his principles are almost always inadequate, although he believes that everything is normal with him.

Reasons for inappropriate behavior

In fact, the reasons for the manifestation of this condition can be very different. A person may simply not understand what is expected of him, he may have some psychological problems contributing to inappropriate behaviour. Very often, inadequate people commit any actions that run counter to public opinion, simply because they rely not on the reaction of others, but on their personal opinion, they are guided not by the external, but by their inner world. In various situations, even the most balanced people commit rash acts. Sometimes the reasons for this are hidden in deep childhood. For example, children raised in families of drug addicts and alcoholics very often differ in such norms of principles.

Dangers of inadequate condition

Is an inadequate person dangerous in society? It depends on how much it goes beyond the norms of morality and what actions express his condition. In any case, communication with such an individual is a rather unpleasant experience. But if this is expressed by aggression, or a person is in a state of alcoholic or drug intoxication, then this can be very dangerous. Avoid this. If this is not possible, try to be as calm as possible and try not to get into conflict. Remember, an inadequate person does not give an account of his actions! And, as in can do anything.

What does "inappropriate behavior" mean?

Many have heard this term. Without delving into the subtleties of the concept, they always associate it with a violation of a person’s mental activity. Simply put, we consider people who behave inappropriately as mentally ill or schizophrenics. To some extent, this judgment is correct, but the problem is not how we call the manifestation of the disease, but in our reaction and understanding that they need timely help. Agree that this is very important in relation to the patient.

What is expressed and how dangerous is inadequate behavior for the patient and others? Do I need to contact psychiatrists and what results can be expected from treatment?
Inappropriate behavior is a visible manifestation of existing or emerging serious mental illness. However, at the household level, this does not always correspond to the actual presence of them in humans. This is a very important aspect. Groundless or thoughtless labeling of "schizophrenic", "psychopath" can have very unpleasant, and sometimes even tragic consequences.
Inadequate behavior can manifest itself in a stable, pronounced aggression towards others.
In fact, aggressiveness is characteristic of every person, to a moderate degree it is sometimes necessary, for example, for promotion. By suppressing healthy impulses, we often block some vital actions and decisions.
But aggression can also manifest itself as a reaction to pain, resentment, irritation. If a person has just such an unhealthy look, then problems arise in the mental sphere and personal relationships. dominant aggressive behavior can be directed at oneself, others, and often indiscriminately, bringing destruction of the personality, grief to loved ones. Often an attack rolls like a wave, which, having receded, greatly depletes the body and rarely leaves a feeling of guilt. In this case, the person needs to be treated.
Adults who are aware of changes in their behavior are usually treated faster and more effectively, but adolescents are often susceptible to similar attacks. Sometimes they seem to provoke adults to shout and beat. But in this case, aggression is a cry for help. Teenagers may consider themselves bad. Being indignant, they, as it were, are affirmed in the opinion “I am bad, no one loves me.” Proper Behavior adults - attention to the teenager and periodic consultations with specialists - will help preserve his personality and stop the pathology. In the treatment of aggression, the specialist and the patient must achieve the main results: a decrease in aggressiveness in general and its prevention in the future.
The pace of modern life, nutritional imbalances, temporary shifts and many other negative factors contribute to body disorders. Mental disorders, aggression, insomnia, depression are fixed over time, gradually intensifying.
We try not to run teeth, intestinal and colds, but we start diseases of the soul, often turning into torn, inadequate people. A qualified psychotherapist, the correct diagnosis and successful treatment will help you return to normal.
Inadequate behavior can also manifest itself in painful isolation, a sharp narrowing of the circle of interests, obsessive actions that cannot be rationally explained, any rituals, reasoning that does not correspond to reality ... All these signs can signal existing or developing such serious mental illnesses one of which is schizophrenia. In some cases, the cause of persistent inappropriate behavior may be neglected forms of severe depression.
How to help such a patient? It must be shown to qualified doctors for examination and treatment. A timely appeal to a specialist will help determine the causes of inappropriate behavior, make an accurate diagnosis and choose the course of the necessary treatment.
Modern methods allow quite effectively to help people with inappropriate behavior. Remember that our body always sends us timely signals, and whether we hear them depends only on us.

I think that the opinion that has taken root in society that a mentally healthy person should always be in high spirits and with a smile is just a derivative of the fact that a certain intimacy of personal life has ceased to be intimate - the Internet, etc.. That is, it is easier to "keep face rather than explain to everyone that your grandmother died. Plus production requirements - the boss does not care how it is in your personal life, the plan must be implemented. I'm right?

Yes you are right. Of course, the opinion that one must always be positive and the desire for this is due to the modern environment, specifically, the environment of the metropolis. I would also add the desire to be in trend and, let's say, the desire for correctness (proper nutrition, the right hobby, the right car, the right marriage partner, etc.)

The metropolis sets a very rigid rhythm of life. You need to do what is necessary, and plus what you want (for various reasons). But there is a lot of this “want”, there are a lot of offers, and many of them are really good. And it doesn’t matter what it is about, whether it’s about plucking your eyebrows or buying an apartment, everything is presented as a decisive factor for success. By the way, "success" is also a very interesting category, born of modern society.

All this leads to modern man lives in a state of multitasking, constant movement, changing from one to another. In such a situation, there is no depth (feelings, experiences, relationships, knowledge), because in order to go into depth, one must stop. And if you stop, then suddenly you miss something or you don’t have time ... So they jump across the surface from one to another in the style of Brownian movement, proudly calling this process “search for oneself” or “personal growth”. Either people push out some problems, fears, do not give themselves time to think or explore something, living by the principle: “I will think about it tomorrow”, just so as not to lose the rhythm. The trouble is that tomorrow nothing will change, there will be no time for this.

Many intuitively come to the project approach in life. It is, indeed, very effective, in conditions when you need to do a lot in a limited time. Any project is characterized by transparency: it is clear what is at the input, what will be at the output, what resources will be required, in what quantity and when. And the project has a clear plan, a rather rigid scenario, where each element has its own role. But not everything in life can be planned. Our world is probabilistic, there is a lot of irrationality in a person, and such rigidity does not allow paying attention to other possibilities that differ from the programmed one, but for a person they can be even more effective.

Back to feelings. Any deep emotions and feelings, such as love, change the rhythm of habitual life and carry a risk. Grief, fear, disappointment and other negative emotions and feelings are very unpleasant and, of course, are perceived as a threat from which a person tries to escape in busy life. There is no time to share the grief of another person, because you have to run. It’s scary to show your grief, otherwise you’ll suddenly fall behind, suddenly turn away, won’t take you with you.

Let's leave love alone for now... Let's focus on negative emotions and feelings. If you pretend that they do not exist, then they will not disappear from this. They will simply be unconscious and will manifest themselves in the form of background anxiety, some kind of the same inadequate reaction. You can't run away either, because, as you know, you can't run away from yourself. And this desire to do as much as possible, “squeezing” positive out of oneself continues until a person has another need or he runs into something (for example, age restrictions, constant failures in some area of ​​life) or something will not happen.

Well, a little more about the environment. Of course, she dictates a lot. But the environment consists of individual people, and we are still dealing with individual people, and not the environment as a whole. Therefore, we can vary our behavior, choose and shape our environment, negotiate, in the end, with them, i.e. with people. But for this you need to take the initiative, coupled with responsibility.

Now, in fact, the answer to the first question:

I would not recommend getting carried away with analysis, namely one’s own adequacy, i.e. try to answer the question: "Was I adequate, how adequate was I?". Since this is an assessment of the conformity of oneself with the external requirements of society. And in an effort to comply with them, a person can push himself: his needs, feelings, emotions, desires, opportunities, etc. As a result, it is possible to come to a situation where a person feels that he is not doing what he should be doing, living in a wrong way, etc.

When evaluating your own reaction, it is better to answer the questions: “Why am I doing this, what am I trying to say or what to achieve, why do I need this. What does it give me? Any person strives for a comfortable existence in society and will try to comply with social norms. Another thing is that this does not always work out due to some kind of mental trouble.

Think that a person can be called adequate in his reactions, if he is aware of them, as well as his actions. If his behavior is controlled by him, and generally in line with social norms society or the social group to which he considers himself. If he feels comfortable, achieves his goals, solves his problems, his quality of life does not deteriorate, he is socialized.

Inappropriate emotional response, of course, is a marker of mental distress. But NOT isolated cases of such, since any of us can break loose in some situation. The alarm needs to be beaten when inadequate reactions and behavior appear again and again. In addition, a sign of inadequacy may be the failure of a person in an attempt to resolve some problematic situation.

Inadequate reactions do not necessarily indicate some serious mental problems, the cause may be stressful condition. A person comes out of a stressful situation, and all problems with adequacy disappear. As a rule, a person monitors his inadequacy if his mental processes are preserved. At least, by the reaction of others, he understands that something is wrong. Another thing is that the blame for this can be shifted to others: I lost my temper, but she finished it. Or a person may understand that there is a problem, but not be able to solve it on their own. For example, in postpartum depression, the mother cannot bring herself to take care of the child, but she is aware of this and feels guilty about it.