“Because every circumstance
it is a gift and there is a treasure in every experience.”
Neil Donald Walsh

How well you live your life, in what direction, negative or positive, depends on you.

Skill plays an important role in this. accept any circumstance: and unpleasant situations, and painful conditions, and social conflicts.

In order to gain the skill of "acceptance", we suggest understanding what it is and how you can learn to accept.

What is acceptance

Acceptance is new level of understanding.

This is the understanding that everything that happened to you, for some reason you need it.

Understanding that the problem always comes from within you outward, and is manifested from within by external circumstances. You receive what you broadcast to the World.

The Outside World is signaling you, through the situation, to which pay attention to yourself.

Understanding that accepting the situation does not mean accept injustice what is happening about you does not mean submitting to circumstances.

Accept this:

• Agree that the situation has already been created and that we need to move on based on the presence of this fact.
• Agree that it is impossible to change events, but you can understand them differently.
• Find the reason why this situation has arisen in your life, and understand how to act so this doesn't happen to you.

What is important to learn to accept

#1 Accept yourself

It is difficult for a person to accept himself when he dissatisfied with himself.

To accept yourself means to accept all your strengths and weaknesses. agree that human being imperfect.

Recognize that you you have the right to make mistakes that you don't have to be perfect in everything.

And that you don't have to live up to others' expectations of you, no need to please.

#2 Accept other people

It's hard to accept others if you don't understand that the people who hurt you (from your point of view) are really are not a source pain.

Through such people, circumstances show you what you need to pay attention to in yourself.

You will not be able to accept the situation with one person, you will blame him, a similar situation will arise with others.

Because the world will signal to you “pay attention to the source in Yourself”, until you realize the essence of the problem itself.

When you accept the people around you, you realize that people are unfair in relation to others.

At the same time, you do not evaluate the actions of people and do not condemn them. Do you understand that people cannot match your expectations.

Acceptance of another person can be compared to maternal acceptance. Mother easily accepts pranks and any actions of a small unreasonable child.

Acceptance is the ability to understand that a person will NEVER change.

#3 Accept the situation (circumstances)

To accept circumstances means to agree that there are things in this life that do not correspond to your vision and perception of the World. What everything has its place.

Both what you perceive positively and what you perceive negatively.

Since the concepts of “positive” and “negative” are relative. As well as the concepts of “good and bad”, “difficult and easy”, “ nice person and unpleasant."

All these qualities are endowed when the assessment is given. And it is not at all necessary that what you like will please others.

Or what is unpleasant for you, it is likely that others will delight. Because the criteria for evaluation and perception are different for everyone.

For example the weather. After all, there are days when she is not pleasant to you. But you accept This fact and don't try to change the weather.

And just because you don't like rain, for example, doesn't mean it's a natural phenomenon everyone else doesn't like it. There will always be people who love the rain.

Why is it important to learn acceptance?

By not accepting, the person thereby spends a lot of energy, energy and time resisting circumstances.

If a person cannot accept the circumstances, he constantly replays what happened in his thoughts, and worries every time on this occasion.

By doing so, a person only destroys itself both emotionally and physically.

It is also important to understand that in your life there will be no less unpleasant situations and disappointments, but having learned to accept, you will thereby begin to act not to your detriment.

First of all, the ability to accept you personally need, and not to participants in events that are unpleasant for you.

It does not matter what events occur in the outside world, it is important how you react to these events.

Rejection can be compared to a poisonous drink that you yourself drink but expect harm to be done to the “bad” person.

That is, to accept, this is first of all take care of yourself.

By learning to accept, a person becomes a more harmonious personality. It becomes stronger, calmer, more balanced, free from dogmas and opinions.

Such a person difficult to manipulate.

How to learn to accept

Step 1. Agree "Yes, it happened"

Do not confuse this point with humility.

To accept means to accept that the situation is inevitable, that you are ready to drag the hardships of adversity for the rest of your life. put up with it submit to circumstances.

And to accept the situation means to accept that it has already happened, but at the same time to understand that there is always a way from any situation, and from this one too. And as a rule, there is more than one way out.

It remains only to find this way out.

Step 2. Find the reason "why it happened"

Each situation contains "pearl of wisdom".

Think about why this situation happened to you. Realize what's important she highlights you.

Thank all the participants in the events, do not forget about yourself, for a new vision of what happened.

Step 3. Move on without looking back

For example: you left the house, and it is raining outside. You had to go back for an umbrella. You will not be offended and complain about the rain, that it is inopportune for you.

Even if you grumble, you certainly won’t hang in this state for a long time.

Take it as a fact and proceeding from this position, another time, before leaving, look out the window and grab the necessary items right away so that you don’t have to return.

3 techniques to adopt

Technique #1 Inhale Acceptance

We offer you a very simple practice for accepting everything and everything.

It is called the Breath of Acceptance and is performed in the morning as soon as you wake up.

• Come to the window, greet the new day and declare your readiness accept any events in your life that will happen to you today.
• Ask the Higher Powers to help you and guide you in difficult times.
• Express intent see depth and wisdom in every step, in every circumstance of the coming day.
• Take a deep breath, joyfully accepting all the gifts of this day!

#2 Self Acceptance Affirmations

Do you want to increase self-acceptance and trust in the world in life by doing everything 5 minutes a day?

Affirmations for the chakras will help you. These are simple, and, at the same time, unique practices that will allow you to "pump" important personal qualities easy and fast.

Technique #3 Quit Everything

At one of the webinars for clients of the Mastery Keys Training Center, Alena suggested the following practice:

"There is one gesture that Hard time breaks out in most people.

When you raise your hand up and in your hearts say "Fuck it ..."

We are cultured people, so we will call this gesture "Give up everything with your hand."

It means that you pass the decision this situation TOP, for example, to your higher self, your mentors, your spiritual teachers.

Instead of poking through closed doors, enter a semi-meditative state, raise your hand and sharply lower it down.

Thus you abdicate responsibility for all the grips of the 3D world and pass higher powers for highest resolution situation and the highest good."

Many wrote after the webinar that the gesture worked in a difficult situation. Experiment and you.

And don't forget to keep in focus what is really important to you.

To prove injustice towards you or take care of Yourself?

Online-interview with the President of the Personnel House "SuperJob" Alexei Nikolaevich Zakharov.

"Hello! Your site's motto is "Work should be fun!" To what extent can you attribute this to your work and what gives you the maximum pleasure in your work? Thanks!"
– I can fully attribute this motto to my work. My work brings me great joy and pleasure!

“If you, God forbid, had to look for a job, how would you do it?”
- Do not believe it: I would have posted a resume on the SuperJob website! I'm sure I would have found a job very quickly.

"Good afternoon! You are doing a good and necessary job, thank you very much! How did you come up with the idea of ​​creating SuperJob? What prompted? Please tell us how it all began.
– The history of the creation of the SuperJob portal has already been described many times. You can read it, for example, in the article "The Keeper of Vacancies", which was published in the newspaper "Vedomosti" on October 30, 2006.

“Hello, Alexei Nikolaevich, please tell me how long does it take from the moment the applicant registers to the moment when he finally finds a job to his liking?”
– The higher the level of claims of the applicant, the longer the search takes. The higher the position you are applying for, the longer the job search process will usually take. The director of an enterprise, who has thousands of people under his command, can look for work for six months - a year, and this is quite normal. A mid-level specialist usually looks for work from a week to a month, in extreme cases - two. If you are a qualified specialist, and the job search process has dragged on for more than three months, then you are doing something wrong... Meticulously re-read your resume, check the correctness of its location in the sections of the specialty catalog on our website, contact the SuperJob Support Service for help.

How to look for a job if you have no experience? I just graduated from high school and faced the fact that all vacancies have a work experience requirement. And where can you get it if you don’t get hired without it?
- Almost all large companies today with great pleasure take people without experience - students and newly minted specialists - for internships with further employment. Therefore, if you are looking for a job for the first time, pay attention first of all to the vacancies of large well-known companies - they, as a rule, work very well with young people. Perhaps the salary in medium or small companies will seem more attractive to you, but business processes in small companies are usually built in such a way that there is no one and no time to teach young people there - hence the requirement for experience in their vacancies.
Without work experience, by the way, you will be taken with pleasure to government agencies: there people are almost always required - for initial positions. Yes, they often pay little there, but this is an opportunity to gain invaluable experience within a year or two, which very often cannot be acquired even in a business environment. And with experience in government agencies, you will then be happy to be taken to the private sector.

Also pay attention to the offers of manufacturing (first of all, again large) companies, while be prepared that for the first 2-3 years, while you do not know how, you will be paid less than your classmates who worked there from the second course.
Keep in mind: if you deal with the issue of finding a job in the 3rd year, then there will be no problems with employment by the 5th year.

“Do you think there is a need for a targeted program for the employment of people over 50 years old?”
- I think that such a program is not needed. Need a normal public policy in the field of personnel and migration of the population, real state assistance is needed for those who decide to change their direction of activity. At the same time, not only 50-year-olds need such activities. Of the nearly 2,000 questions received, almost 1,000 read something like, “I'm old and can't find a job. What to do?" But about five hundred more like this: “I'm young and I can't find a job. What to do?" So what's the problem? I believe that objectively such a problem does not exist. Today there are no problems to get a job at any age - the whole question is the adequacy of the request! If you find it difficult to find a job, then it is most likely not about age.

How to look for a job in adulthood? How to look for a job in young age? First of all, come to SuperJob and carefully read all the materials and recommendations in the "How to look for a job" section. Most people who complain that no one invites them to interviews simply do not read our recommendations! In order to find a job quickly and without problems today, you must first of all understand that finding a job is also a job! This is work that needs to be done carefully and scrupulously, methodically studying the rules of the game and the laws of the market. And the higher position you want to take, the better you need to understand this issue - the issue of job search technology.

“What, in your opinion, are the employment prospects for a qualified specialist of pre-retirement age?”
- Employment prospects for specialists of pre-retirement, retirement and deep retirement age, if they are qualified specialists, are the most promising, since the labor market is experiencing a clear shortage of qualified personnel. Our experience shows that regardless of age, a qualified specialist easily finds a job. And if you really are such a specialist, you don’t need to complex and pay attention to what is written in the vacancy, because age there is often written very conditionally. When they refuse because of age, more precisely, they call age the reason for refusal, very often some other, objective reason is hidden behind this, it’s just that it’s easiest for a candidate at “near retirement” age to refuse, motivating the refusal precisely with this. There is a big problem when a person has not become a professional by the age of retirement. But even in this case, if you have the strength and desire to work, it is never too late to start from scratch and acquire a new or improve an existing qualification.

“Do you check the companies that post vacancies on your site for ethical business conduct and attitude towards the employee?”
- We can't do that. We check employers only for compliance of their activities with the legislation of the Russian Federation. According to the rules of working with our service, employers are prohibited from posting information that is contrary to the law, as well as posting vacancies and offering candidates from the SuperJob website database work related to gambling, occult and erotic services, making money on the Internet, processing e-mail, holding mass email marketing and network marketing.

If you think that the company is behaving unethically towards you, we advise you to contact the Labor Inspectorate and the court. In 95% of cases, the court resolves labor disputes in favor of the employee.

“Dear Alexey Nikolaevich! I would like to know your opinion about the work of other Internet sites for recruitment. What sites can you single out and do you consider them worthy competitors? P.S.!"
– We have no competitors: we consider everyone as colleagues, because together we solve an important social task. And we will not say that SuperJob will find you a job better than anyone else. We will be glad if you find a job on another work resource - there are a lot of decent job sites.

I would not like to single out anyone. We also sincerely believe that SuperJob is much better than the rest.

“I am a PhD. When looking for a job, is this a plus or a minus?
Yes, that's a plus. But if you want to work as a loader - minus.

“Dear Alexey Nikolaevich! What does your experience say: are there any sensible and decent employers left in nature?
- My experience says that most people are kind and good, including employers. But if you haven’t come across such people yet, then we have a huge number of wonderful clients - employing companies. Maybe they are looking for you?

“I have been looking for an answer to this question for a long time. Why does this pattern always arise: the less interesting the work, the more they pay for it, and vice versa?
– This is not always the case. In your case, apparently, interest in what you are doing is falling, and at the same time your professionalism is growing.

"Aleksey Nikolaevich! I had to get a job suitable for me with the help of your site several times. Thanks for support. Do you have any other websites?
- There are websites. For example, www.obed.ru.

“What is the hardest thing you have experienced in your career life?”
- Hard to say. There were always positive people around me, and all development, with God's help, was quite easy. Maybe there is still something to go through, but for now, I can say, it’s a sin to complain.

“How do you feel about single mothers? Do you think they are capable of doing a good job?”
- Quite loyal. Single mothers are able to work well, and very often their motivation is much higher than that of women without children or women raising children in a complete family.

“Why in our country prefer to take men to leadership positions?”
- I do not know. Director of the Personnel House "SuperJob" Ms. Bondaruk Elena Igorevna is a lady, and I think that we are very lucky that we have such a director.

“What qualities should an applicant for a vacant position in your company have?”
– It should be a positive-minded person. Team player. Human, loving people aimed at personal professional growth.

“How do you feel about the concept of “protection work” and how to deal with it?”
- You don't have to fight it. Indeed, most of the employment to this day happens precisely by acquaintance. But there is no point in fighting this - when looking for a job, all means are good, and this too. Use it and you.

“Should I call a potential employer after sending a resume by fax or e-mail in order to make sure that it was received and considered?”
- Costs. The interest of the applicant in getting a job often influences the choice of employer. An employer, other things being equal, will almost certainly prefer a candidate who has expressed an interest in working in this particular company.

“Tell us, please, about what you do while taking a break from such a useful, necessary and interesting business as yours?”
- For me, the best rest is a sauna or fishing.

“Due to the increasing popularity of the SuperJob website in the virtual space, are you considering opening a “ground” representative office or a network of recruitment agencies under the SuperJob brand? Can this happen?
- Maybe. We are considering ... Or it may not happen ...

"What should be done young specialist to become a professional?"
- The most important thing is to really want to become one.

“Dear Aleksey Nikolaevich, do you think that visiting applicants achieve better results in terms of professional and career growth than native Muscovites, or vice versa? And what, in your opinion, is the reason for this?
- No, I don't think so. Talented people are everywhere, and in Moscow they are born no less than in other Russian cities.

“Why are the results of the HR salary surveys on your site so far behind the reality?”
- It is not true. Salary reviews on our website are 100% objective information that fully reflects the realities that exist in the labor market today.

"Good afternoon! Is it possible to meet vacancies on SuperJob public service?»
- Is quite real. We have been working productively with government agencies for a long time, our regular clients are the Federal Tax Service, the Ministry economic development and many other government organizations, enterprises and educational establishments. As of July 20, 2007, 768 vacancies of state organizations were posted on our website.

“Is it possible to find a job for a top manager through websites? My experience shows that the owner of even a small company is looking for a manager on the recommendations of partners, acquaintances and colleagues. How to look for a job for a top that does not have the "necessary" connections or does not want to use them?
- There are no "tops" who do not have connections and have problems finding work. If there are problems, you need to realize that being just a very good high-class specialist is also very prestigious and honorable, moderate your ambitions and carefully look for a job that suits you.

“Should I talk to my boss about a pay rise?”
- Definitely worth it.

"Do you worship Cthulhu? do you say "forward"? Do you have a bear keychain? Will you hire me? If you do not answer me, I will kill myself with an upsten ... "
- I don't know the language - I can't answer.

“Do you have statistics - how many and what quality people find work through your site? I would like to know the number of satisfied people!”
– For 7 years, more than a million people have found a job with the help of our website. From 30 to 50 thousand people are employed monthly. Many of our applicants have already managed to change jobs 2-3 times with our help. Look at the "Success Stories" - there are thousands of them, all real, we did not invent anything.

“Dear Alexey Nikolaevich! For several months now I have been actively using the services of the Personnel House "SuperJob". The proposals that they send me are interesting to me, for some of them I send my resume with a request for an answer in case of any solution. However, no messages are ever received in response. The result is a one-sided game. And what should I do next in the case when I sent my resume to the vacancy I was interested in and did not receive a “yes” or “no” in response? Why does the employer not bother to give at least some answer?
– Do not be upset and regard such silence as a refusal. If you are very interested in working in an organization that did not bother you with an answer, I recommend that you call and find out the fate of your resume. Indeed, it is not yet customary to respond to all resumes in the practice of modern hr-managers and recruiters, because we still do not have a culture of job search and good manners do not yet apply to this area of ​​our life. Moreover, not only recruiters and hrs are to blame for this situation, but also the applicants themselves, who send their resumes wherever possible, without especially reading the requirements of the opposite side. This is how hrs receive hundreds of “garbage” letters a day, and in this case, as you understand, it is almost impossible to answer all applicants.

“Why are vacancies in some specialties never published on the Internet? Why are there so few vacancies for creative professions on your site?
– Employment of a person of a creative profession always requires exclusively individual approach. Any resources - whether Internet portals, newspapers or recruitment agencies - are mainly looking for people for systemic business processes and cannot help a creative person with employment. Composers, writers, artists and other creative people are piece goods, so their employment largely depends on themselves and, it seems to me, very much depends on simple life luck and the desire to realize themselves.

“Thank you for the opportunity to ask a question. I am tormented by the following: how to leave the employer without remorse, if he treated you well, taught you everything and gave a lot. Often, because of attachment to the employer, they linger on the career step ... How to overpower yourself and leave the "warm nest"?
– If you have a really good relationship with your employer, voice your doubts to your current employer. Either they will understand you and let you go, or they will offer you options for growth. The desire to grow is normal, and, believe me, employers most often understand such desires.

“Tell me, Mr. President of SuperJob, are all employers so inadequate? I do my job perfectly, I am responsible for the result, I know and can do a lot of useful things, but at the same time I don’t like to overwork, I’m late for work and sometimes I work out working time with their own affairs. They pay me little, arguing this with my shortcomings. Does the employer really care who works for him, as long as he observes the regime?
- I do not consider your employers inadequate. And here, in the SuperJob Personnel House, you would hardly have lasted long either ... If it is fundamentally important for you to have just such a “convenient in all respects” job, then you should think about freelancing or your own business, or try to find yourself work in a "team of like-minded people" - in a place where all employees work according to a free schedule.

Thanks to everyone who took part in this virtual press conference for interesting questions, kind words and constructive criticism! If you did not find the answer to your question, wait for an answer by e-mail.

Fear is natural for the average person. But in anticipation of trouble, the worst-case scenario “spins” in your brain, forcing you to act as if it is already a fait accompli. Expectation of failures, fear of them, can become the biggest obstacles on the way to Success.

Success lies on the other side of failure

Let's first look at our fears in terms of the nature of the universe. Remember: everything in this world is energy with a certain frequency of vibrations. For example, our eyes perceive light - electromagnetic oscillations certain spectrum. By analyzing the information that our organs of vision perceive before it enters our brain, we can make sure that these vibrations do not carry any evil or hostility, they are just vibrations.

But when we perceive them in our brain, we say, "I see a problem." In other words, we perceive high-frequency energies that do not carry any problems in themselves in such a way that they turn into a problem for us. Only by labeling yourself and others, you create favorable conditions for the emergence of problems and fears. And then "The mind experiences, and the brain remembers," as Wilder Penfield writes in his book "The Riddle of the Mind." And further. It is important to understand that there is neither stress nor happiness in everything that happens. A person of his own choice endows events, situations or objects with their content. “Facts do not exist, there are only interpretations of facts,” Nietzsche once said. In philosophical terms, a person is a subject that makes interpretations, and these interpretations will always be connected with his inner world.

Very often we feel disappointed about what then turned out to be in our favor. Know that there is always a benefit, even in failures. It's a paradox, but in your failures there is also a prize hidden - the opportunity to gain experience, grow wiser and become an expert in your life. “Nothing real can be threatening, nothing unreal exists. This is the peace of God,” says the book A Course in Miracles.

Stephen Pavlina writes:“When you hear someone tell you that success is easy, run away from him, because they will try to sell you another get-rich-quick idea. The honest truth is that it is very difficult - almost impossible - to succeed in something that you have not done before. But it's great. Understand that failure and success are not opposites. Failure is an inevitable part of success. When you fail, it means you take action, so you make mistakes and educate yourself. Success comes naturally once you finally know how to do the right thing."

“Man is not disturbed by events, but by his view of these events,” said the Stoic philosopher Epictetus 2,000 years ago. Sometimes even an accident can serve as an awakening to the beginning of a new life, and months spent in the hospital can be an invaluable gift of finding a “real life”, because “difficulties create opportunities.”

Your philosophy should be the understanding that "everything that happens in my life is the best thing that could happen." If you believe that everything that happens is done, in the end, for your benefit, then there will be no place for stress in your life. If you are sure from the very beginning that everything will end well for you, you will no longer feel like a fragile boat in the endless ocean.

Here is an important principle for your personal philosophy: my current situation is exactly what I need at the moment for personal growth and development. In other words, every aspect of your life today is as it should be. Every difficulty you face contains opportunities that you can turn to your advantage.

Think about this: People only complain about things they can change. After all, it never occurs to anyone to complain about the law of gravity, even if, in accordance with it, we ended up on slippery asphalt. It's a paradox, but we complain not to those who can change something: to the boss - to the wife, but to the wife - to friends. Ask yourself: "Why and why do I always give my precious energy to everything that I do not need?".

Your mind scrolls through up to 60,000 thoughts daily. Analyze how many of them are dedicated to what you do not need? To get rid of these kinds of thoughts, ask yourself: “What do I need?” and reframe them into an intention to solve the problem and thus remove it from your mind.

When we begin to “reconstruct” our own lives, it is like renovating an apartment. Around - chaos, you have to make some decisions, deal with some people ... When the air is full of dust, everything is destroyed "in the trash", it is difficult to maintain a clear vision of the future and the ultimate goal. It is not surprising that under these conditions you may feel anxious and ask yourself: “Am I on the right track? Am I off course? Was it all worth it?" But chaos in nature testifies to growth, to the process that has begun, to dynamics and changes. Physicists know that a system that has gone through chaos reaches a new level of development.

Winemakers will tell you how they get the most exquisite wine. To do this, growing grapes are subjected to "stress", deliberately moistening the soil only at the limit of the vine's survival. After passing through this test, grapes give the best drink.

Millions of years ago, fear signaled to a person that he was out of his comfort zone, leading to a state of readiness to “run-fight-freeze”. Today, fear is a signal that you need to be careful. You need to recognize and accept your fear, and free yourself from it, ask yourself, what kind of image of the future scares you? Then replace this image with its positive opposite. After all, you created fear yourself, imagining some negative result in the future.

All the great teachers and sages said that you should never worry, tear your strength, spending it on the fight. The point is not to slow down the pace of your life, you just need to calm down. When faced with difficult choices, faced with important decisions, ask yourself, “How does this decision make me feel? How correct does it seem to me? What does my intuition tell me? Losers are afraid of failure, so they are failures.

The paradox is that the most successful are those people who fail the most, because they act the most! Thomas Watson Sr., the founder of IBM, once told a journalist: “If you want to succeed quickly, you must fail twice as often. Success lies on the other side of them." Successful people always have a positive attitude towards problems, they have a type of thinking that is called "solution orientation". They think about solutions most of the time. Losers, on the other hand, think about problems and difficulties all the time. Focusing on a solution successful people constantly looking for a way out of the crisis, a way to overcome or circumvent an obstacle on the way. Problem-oriented people are constantly talking about difficulties, who or what is causing it, how unhappy they are, and how hard life is for them.

In contrast, decision-oriented individuals ask the question, “What can be done?” - and begin to remove the obstacle.

The development of a person is very simple, and goes through three stages: - lived experience, - learning a lesson from experience, - development, thanks to this lesson. As soon as we learn these lessons, stop blaming others, and take full responsibility for our lives, our attitude towards ourselves changes, we begin to vibrate in the world in a different way and attract other states into your life. Failure should be treated as an experience, learn from it, become wiser, correct course and move on. See failure as a result that can be improved, as the seeds of something better. After all, lemonade can be made from the most sour lemon! One of the rules of success is: it doesn't matter where you come from, it only matters where you go.

There is a concept in physics known as the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle. In simple terms, it lies in the fact that when you look at something from a different angle, this something begins to change, as if adjusting to the observer.

In other words, observing something, you will definitely change it (I will note in passing - here is the reason for what we call the “evil eye”), i.e. even just by observing this world, we change it, and a change in it occurs only when the observer himself changes, and not the observed.

What is true of subatomic particles is also true of our lives. When you learn to look at things from a different angle, they will begin to change. Look at an event that seems to be unsuccessful from a different point of view, and you will definitely discover its positive aspects.

Michael Jordan has the most goals in the basket, but he also has the first place in misses. Disney has been bankrupt 7 times, while winning an Oscar 32 times. Napoleon Hill, whose books made thousands of millionaires, was bankrupt most of his life.

Remember that a true expert is someone who has failed enough to succeed. Treat past failures with a sense of gratitude! Throw your fear in the trash when making a decision, do not ask him for advice. His job is to keep you in your comfort zone. Make it a rule for yourself: “Do first of all what you are most afraid of!”. If fear looms ahead, come closer to it, examine it carefully, pat it on the head, thank it, and it will disappear.

Stop worrying about and for no reason. Remember, "Worry is praying for what you don't want." Worry is a negative form of goal setting. The book of Job says: “For the terrible thing that I was terrified of, this also overtook me; and what I feared came to me.”

Don't be afraid to make mistakes for your future. “In prayer, ask not for a light burden, but for strong shoulders” (St. Augustine). published

On the eve of the departure of the youth team of Ukraine to Cherkassy for the qualifying match of the European Championship (U-21) against their peers from Iceland, the coach of the "blue-yellow" team answered the questions of the correspondent of the newspaper "Komanda".

— Sergey Ivanovich, will the Ukrainian national team go to the next match against Iceland with the motto “nowhere to retreat”?

- For us, the quality of the game is very important, but we do not forget about the positive result, so we will do our best to bring these two components together.

- A lot of new-old players have been called up for the matches against Iceland and France. Are these organizational conclusions after the defeat by Macedonia?

- If you remember the work of our coaching staff, then there are changes at almost every stage of preparation. This means that we give a chance to each of the players to prove themselves. Now young people are trusted in clubs, so they have all the prerequisites for growth, speaking in the national team.

— Shakhtar striker Boryachuk was called up from the newcomers...

— Andriy is now scoring a lot as part of the Pitmen's youth team, so why not see him in action and in the national team jersey.

— Are there any losses?

- Burda was injured. And after consulting doctors, they decided that it was better for him to be treated at the club. Migunov and Khoblenko have been damaged, but they should be in service soon.

- Before the match with Macedonia, you said that your team lacked teamwork. How will you solve this problem now?

— A lot depends on the intellect of the players, therefore, communicating with the guys individually and during the training process, we try to convey to them all the subtleties of what our coaching staff wants to see, and also try to draw conclusions after the matches with Macedonia and Denmark.

— Iceland— the leader of our group. Is this a surprise?

For many fans, perhaps it is. But I want to say that this country has been operating for 20 years Government program, according to which many football arenas have been built, there are Spanish and Dutch systems for training young players. And the result of all this high-quality work is that the national team of Iceland entered the European Championship, playing in a group with such monsters as Holland, the Czech Republic and Turkey.

The youth team of the last convocation reached the playoff matches of the European Championship. Yes, and the youth team (players born in 1995), which now represents the interests of the youth team, participated in the final part of the Euro in 2012. So we are in for an interesting and difficult match.

- Nevertheless, the style of play of the Icelanders, who are not called “Our Boys” in their homeland, is they great physical readiness and fighting on every part of the field?

- They use their strengths. This is power football, a lot of long passes, there are also elements of ball control. And still it is necessary to note their game discipline.

— In the matches against Iceland and France, how many points would you be satisfied with?

- Maximum amount. In general, we have an even group, and I'm sure that each of the rivals will lose points. How could anyone assume that the same Icelanders would stumble at home in the game with Northern Ireland? Therefore, it is too early to say in advance who is closer to entering the Euro. It is very important for our children to understand that everything depends only on us.

— The junior team will play all their home matches in Cherkassy. Why?

- The Ukrainian national team is the number one team in the country, and it is natural that we would like to play in any region where there would be a full stadium. In Cher-kassy all conditions are created for this. It's just that in some other cities there are no such conditions. And above all, this concerns the infrastructure of the host arenas. Although, I repeat, we are ready to play everywhere. Would three-buns be empty in Rovno, Khmelnitsky or Krivoy Rog? But not everything depends on our football federation...

Sergey Demyanchuk