We are all social beings, and not a day goes by without communication. It is from the knowledge of how to communicate with people, from the ability to conduct a conversation correctly that the level of human relations and the possibility of achieving goals depend.

There is a category of people who brand themselves as a loser, explaining this with the following phrase: “I can’t communicate with people.” On the one hand, this may be due to the nature of the individual. Shyness, excessive modesty, excessive demands on oneself make a person insecure, withdrawn. And others, not being able to understand the internal reasons for such behavior, consider it arrogant, often attribute such negative qualities, which a person does not have in sight.

Of course, it is best for such citizens to talk with a psychologist, work out in special groups among his kind. Having learned to value oneself, to accept one's "I" as it is, to stop tormenting and torturing oneself, belittling one's own assessment in society, a person will gradually become a completely adequate person.

Although sometimes rebirth occurs without the participation of psychologists. After all, every person implicitly knows how to communicate with people, but cannot overcome himself. But suddenly, next to a closed individual, there will be a real friend who will help the personality to open up with better side.

And a lot has even been written about the great helping flourish to the most zatyuk teenager, to show his chosen one or his beloved in all his sublime beauty works of art, a lot of songs have been composed, a huge number of films have been shot.

But often misunderstanding arises in the human environment only because some do not know how to talk to the people who surround it. Communication with a business partner cannot take place in a cheeky manner, they do not speak with close people in an official tone, and a complex psychological duel takes place between a man and a woman at the flirting stage. The establishment and development of any relationship depends on the level of your ability to communicate.

The first impression is created from the first words. If a person cannot clearly formulate his thoughts, uses obscene language to connect, and fills the pauses in speech with the sounds “uh-uh”, “uh-uh”, then it will be problematic for him to declare himself in a cultural society. To express thoughts, it is necessary to replenish vocabulary and this is achieved by reading literature. You can attend lectures and trainings, but nothing improves elementary literacy as much as reading.

It is very important to immediately choose the right style, to determine which set of words is acceptable in this circle of communication. AT working environment their own terminology is used, but on a date, for example, the neologisms "golden" and "cat" will be correctly understood and appreciated. The style of the conversation will immediately show your attitude towards the interlocutor. Therefore, if there is a difficulty in choosing a style in an unfamiliar environment, you should adhere to a neutral-friendly tone, first of all, greet others, use standard phrases.

Since it is quite difficult to communicate with people in an unfamiliar team, you can give some advice to someone who finds himself in a similar situation. For example, you can mentally take the place of the interlocutor or look at the situation from the side with the eyes of an outsider.

The second piece of advice on how to communicate with people would be to be as discreet as possible, but respectful. No one normally perceives a yelling person or an interlocutor speaking past. Whatever emotions rage inside, when communicating, you can’t bring them down on others. How often do we react with restraint to the rudeness of a seller or driver and say offensive nasty things to the closest people, and then we are perplexed - where did the love go.

The pace of speech is also important in communication and largely depends on the specific situation. They speak slowly with children or foreigners, using simple words Otherwise, the speech simply will not be understood. to convey your thoughts to the audience, you need a measured rhythm, with a clear breakdown into separate theses.

To practice this skill, you can practice as follows - stepping to pronounce one word at a time. Do not forget about goodwill and No matter how hard you try to apply your communication skills, an evil look or an unexpected trick can alienate any interlocutor and even destroy relationships.

Each of us has faced the need to negotiate, business conversation, or just chat with the "right" person. The purpose of the conversation is to persuade the interlocutor to his point of view, to win his favor, to achieve the task. Or maybe you just want him to like it, just in case! The key to the success of any conversation is the "right" interlocutor. Moreover, one correct one is enough, for example, you. Do you want to be like this?

Who owns the information, owns the world

If the outcome of the conversation is fundamentally important to you, and there is time get ready, collect information about the interlocutor. First of all, you should be interested in his hobbies. When you talk to a person about what he is interested in, he himself is willingly and enthusiastically involved in the conversation. Your task is only to listen, to agree and sometimes ask questions. If you didn’t manage to find out about the interlocutor’s hobbies in advance, listen to what he says in the first minutes of the conversation, what worries him. Cling to his thought and continue to expand the topic. Just never touch politics and religion! The prim English, while observing the rules of etiquette, always bypass these topics, since they are the most controversial. And in case of a conflict, a constructive dialogue will not work, and you immediately lose.

Watch your loved one. For example, with what enthusiasm dad tells about the beginning of his career, how he, still very young, was appointed head of the production department, of course, for special merits! By the way, if you don’t know how to interest the interlocutor, ask about his work. Most people are proud of their success in the service or in business and consider their careers to be one of the most amazing.

If you managed to hook a person for his interest, consider that advantage already received. The main thing now is not to miss the firebird and correctly bring the matter to the end.

Talk less, listen more

It is important for a person to listened to. Do not interrupt, let the interlocutor say whatever he wants. If you want to master the art, learn to forget about yourself and think about the interests of your opponent. Listen carefully, nod in approval, make eye contact, express interest. Dale Carnegie in his books focuses on the fact that in fact, people are not interested in you, they are only interested in themselves. Don't try to please by talking about yourself. This is the most wrong way. You will unwittingly like if you learn to listen carefully to the stories of others.

The main one who asks questions

What if companion got taciturn? You have to take the initiative in your own hands! Just immediately remember the previous rule "Talk less, listen more", and ... start asking questions. Your job is to get the person to talk. The question should be detailed so that it cannot be answered with a monosyllabic "yes-no". "Do you love to travel?" is a bad question. "I see you love to travel! What countries have you visited?" - already better. From the answer, you can understand how to continue the dialogue. With this approach to the conversation, you get an additional advantage - you control the course of the conversation and can smoothly lead it to the issue of interest to you.

Game "Give it to someone else"

Communication is, of course, a thing bilateral. It is not interesting to talk to a silent person. Therefore, ask, insert your remarks into the conversation, and immediately give the other the opportunity to express their opinion on this topic. If you noticed that the interlocutor is a sweet lover, support him: "Oh, I also love cakes! They are especially tasty in a small coffee shop near the cinema! Where do you usually drink coffee?" You briefly told about your tastes, handed over the course, and then you can listen to a story about your friend's favorite coffee houses.

Consensus and Contradiction

It's nice to agree with you support? And when they contradict and argue? Not really ... Disagreement with the interlocutor often leads to. Eliminate phrases like: "But here I disagree with you", or "Here I am ready to argue." Do you want to impress a pleasant interlocutor and achieve something you need for yourself? Then sincerely agree out loud and stay with your opinion for yourself.

The Easiest of NLP: Adjustment and the Three Yes Rule

It's very fashionable now apply neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). Try some tricks. The easiest thing is adjustment. Unbeknownst to the interlocutor, take the same pose as he does, use similar gestures. Just don't overdo it so it doesn't look like a parody. Adjustment should be natural and imperceptible. People love those who look like them.

lull vigilance interlocutor possible with repeated consent. Ask a question with which he unambiguously agrees: "Such a pleasant aroma! Does your eau de toilette smell so wonderful?". This is followed by a second question with an unequivocal sense of consent, and the third one you can ask any one that interests you directly: "In your opinion, am I a good worker?" The third answer "yes" will follow, by inertia the subconscious mind will continue to agree. Here, you have almost solved your question.

Success does not come by itself. Luck does not follow the lazy. Practice! Train on an annoying neighbor, on grandmothers at the entrance, on your best friend. Then, armed with knowledge and experience, you will easily win the title of a pleasant conversationalist. Or maybe you'll get a raise by listening correctly to how the boss likes to go fishing!

Negotiations are an essential part of any business partnership. Further work with a client or supplier largely depends on the quality of the negotiations, and it is at this stage that the main conditions for cooperation are determined.

FROM psychological point each of us is a unique individual. We have our own life position, views and preferences. The same applies to a person as a counterparty in the transaction process. The director, manager, financier and other officials represent a specific firm that needs specific conditions. A private client, in turn, is interested in a certain product, in a certain quantity. The people with whom you will negotiate need specifics - this is important. But along with it, there are standard methods of negotiating. They can be considered as a template, in the good sense of the word. These rules are formed on the basis of factors such as business ethics and psychoanalysis, so their effectiveness is hardly worth questioning.

So, the rules for successful negotiations include the following points:

1. Training. You must clearly understand the purpose of the negotiations even before they begin directly. Ideally, break this goal into three points: the planned result, acceptable and undesirable. For each of them, it is necessary to have their own strategy of behavior, which is launched even before the result is achieved. Let's say you see that the conversation is going in the wrong direction, and you cannot come to a common denominator with the interlocutor. Use the techniques that will give you the opportunity to get out of the situation.
2. Performance. At the beginning of the conversation, let the partner clearly understand who you are, what company you are acting for, and for what purpose you invited him to this conversation. This will help avoid many questions in the future. An informal digression makes sense if you really know how to communicate on abstract topics. If the conversation “about the weather” is done in so far as, insincerely, it will only be harmful, because. will be a waste of time. Which many business people simply do not have enough. Better to get straight to the point.
3. Understanding. Of course, in the process of negotiations, you must defend, first of all, your interests. But it will not be superfluous to look at the conversation from the side of the interlocutor. This will help you better understand what advantages of your proposal you can highlight for him. Know how to listen and hear someone else's position.
4. Entourage and appearance (for "live" negotiations). Make sure that the negotiations take place in a suitable place, where no one will disturb you. If this is an office, its furnishings should be businesslike. Close the door (but don't lock it) and make sure no one disturbs you. If this is a cafe, try to find a cozy place. Do not invite persons whose presence is not required to participate in negotiations. Control the time of negotiations, do not drag them out, but do not look at your watch every 5 minutes, this is a sign of bad tone and your lack of interest in the deal. As for the appearance - it should be accurate. You are holding a business meeting and you need to look the part.

In fairness, it is worth noting that on this point everything is purely individual. Often, when promoting their product or service, people create such an appearance for themselves that their interlocutor at first cannot understand who he is talking to at all. This makes it possible to play the first violin precisely in terms of business communication while the other side takes the time to learn about you as a person. But here on thin. It is important not to overdo it, because. excessive expressiveness in style can also give a completely opposite result - a person will not initially see you as a serious partner.

1. positive nature of the conversation. Both you and your interlocutor are interested in mutually beneficial cooperation. It's good, isn't it? Show your positive attitude. But not with the help of a “duty” smile or sycophancy, but in such a way that the emotions are sincere. Talk about the prospects for cooperation with feeling, with a gleam in your eyes. If you do not pretend, it will be very easy to maintain such a tone. But at the same time, keep your distance. Perhaps in the future you and the interlocutor will become best friends, but at the moment you are representatives of different business parties, each of which defends its own interests.
2. Unambiguity. If we are talking about a financial partnership, the terms of payment for goods, etc. moments, it is necessary that all of them be clearly specified, and then spelled out in the contract and not subject to double interpretation. Signing a document, of course, is not worth it right away. Why - see the note above this paragraph.
3. The main thing is the details. Didn’t understand what this or that phrase from the lips of a partner meant? Feel free to ask him a clarifying question. Doubts, uncertainty, etc. Feelings must either be confirmed or dispelled. Clarifying questions in this case are the best way.
4. Keep a balance. Between the good and the bad cop. Another important factor is how to negotiate cooperation. Here, as in battle, it is not the one who attacks who is strong, but the one who holds the blow. It is necessary to defend your positions not at the expense of refusals, disputes and other negative things. It is important to demonstrate professionalism. And then the partner will be more loyal to the conditions you offer.
5. Keep your word. Since we are checking a partner for honesty and decency, we can be sure that he will do the same. Promise only what you can guarantee. Keep promises. More precisely, not even promises, but obligations under a future contract. Otherwise, not only moral, but also administrative (and sometimes criminal) liability will await you. Plus, it's your reputation. Don't let her get hurt.
6. A good end to a conversation. After negotiations, the parties must come to a joint conclusion. This may be a compromise, a preliminary agreement, sometimes a categorical disagreement of the parties with each other. But the negotiations cannot be left unfinished. Even if they were just one of the stages, after which you will have other meetings, conversations or correspondence. Treat them like you read a chapter from which you need to draw a conclusion. And, of course, keep basic courtesy. Shake a man's hand (if it's a man), smile at the lady, wish have a good day. Do this regardless of the outcome of the conversation.

IMPORTANT! The outcome of the negotiations does not mean decision. The verdict on cooperation should be accepted only after thinking it over in a calm atmosphere, having discussed with your colleagues everything that you talked about during the negotiations. Especially if the interlocutor offered you options for cooperation that you had not thought about before. You need to carefully analyze this proposal, to understand whether the sounded conditions suit you. Might be worth looking for pitfalls. To make it easier to understand, keep notes during the negotiations. If you agree to a deal during the conversation itself, you can become a victim of a person with a strong charisma, due to which you will be confused.

How to negotiate with a client?

The above recommendations applied to negotiations in general. Now let's look at a few points about what line to take when communicating with the person you want to sell something to. It does not matter if it is a wholesale buyer or a retail client. For us, he is first and foremost a customer.

1. Find out what the client needs. What product, in what volume, for what purposes (remember the specifics). After receiving this information, let the person know that you can implement their requests.
2. Describe the benefits of the product. Preferably with numbers. How many components are richer in its composition, how many times this tool will save money, etc. This will allow you to justify the price you want to receive for the product.

IMPORTANT! You must understand all the benefits, first of all, yourself. Only then can you justify them and convey them to the buyer.

1. If the price does not suit the client, do not complain that such cost is due to the costs of production, logistics and other items of expenditure. The buyer is not interested. It is better to emphasize once again what benefits he receives from the acquisition. Preferably financial. If there really are any, the person will gladly pay you a one-time fee in order to save money in the future. In some cases, you can offer discounts and special conditions. Which ones - calculate in advance, as well as the size of the discounts.

Benefits may include:

• free shipping when buying a certain amount;
• the possibility of purchasing goods in installments;
• additional bonuses (3 products for the price of 2, etc.).

There are a lot of options, the main thing is that they are economically viable for you. If a buyer asks for an unrealistic discount, don't be afraid to say no. At the same time, justify your refusal, say that such conditions are simply unprofitable for you. And offer an alternative.

ADVICE: Examples of successful negotiations demonstrate the relevance of comparisons when voicing prices. “This book costs as much as 10 cups of coffee”, “A monthly payment for a car is equal to three dinners at a restaurant”, etc.

The main thing - do not start the conversation with the cost. First, introduce the buyer to the product (or general assortment), list its advantages, and then politely but confidently announce the price. Confidence is an important point. If a client sees that you are hesitating, he will definitely start haggling. Say the number as confidently as you say your name. When bargaining, if it still takes place, use what is said at the beginning of this paragraph. But do not rush to make the discount itself if the client says "how expensive it is." Perhaps he is just waiting for you to list him again why the product costs exactly as much as you want for it.

1. Do not despair if the person canceled the purchase. Perhaps he just needs to wait until the salary or find out the conditions and prices of your competitors (especially true for wholesale customers). Leave your contacts and politely say that in which case you will always be happy to cooperate.

Difficult client - who is he?

Yes, there is such a separate category of buyers. Many do not like them, but these people help sellers understand the weaknesses of their business. They represent a challenge to be accepted and an obstacle to be overcome. At the same time, these clients themselves are divided into:

• rude people;

When dealing with such people, the main thing is not to succumb to provocations. Remain calm and confident. Rudeness means the absence of other arguments, and when a person realizes that shouting and accusations cannot penetrate you, he will back off himself. And all his negativity will remain with him. Or maybe it's just emotions that need not be prevented from splashing out. If a person is dissatisfied with the price, the appearance of the product, agree with him using speech turns like “Yes, you are certainly right, but let me clarify ...”. And then, despite the emotions, try to help him.

• shy and indecisive people;

Such a person, as a rule, is not confident in himself and in his choice. He is haunted by doubts that you need to level. Maintain it, expand it, or vice versa, narrow down the list of options for purchase. Here it is doubly important to emphasize all the advantages of the product. If a person wants to consult with his wife or superiors, offer your help in this matter.

• "wise men"

The client wants to demonstrate that he knows your product better than you do. Well, in this case, you can play his game. Show how you admire his competence, do not use harsh objections if he criticizes the product, but only offer alternative arguments. The main thing here is to find a compromise. A healthy discussion always benefits both sides.

How to negotiate over the phone?

To begin with, let's clarify - any serious transaction requires a personal meeting. Successful telephone conversations are just one of the stages of cooperation. But this stage is also very important. Let's talk about him.

Customer calls first

This already means that he has an issue that needs to be resolved. The person found your contacts, dialed the number, waited for an answer. Here your task is to politely greet him, introduce yourself, learn about the problem. This will give a charge of a certain trust when the client understands that a real person is also sitting on the other end of the wire, and a robot manager. Do not deceive his expectations. But at the same time, give the opportunity to be convinced of your professionalism, since the caller is far from always an expert in the field of goods or services for which, in fact, he called you. When you learn about his preferences, state them clearly and concisely in your own words and give the client the opportunity to agree with you. And then make an offer and arrange a meeting.

You call first

In this case, the first priority is to find out if the person has time to talk. If not, ask when you can call back, because at the moment a busy interlocutor, if not hanging up, is unlikely to pay enough attention to your proposal.

The rest of the client communication script looks standard:

• Introduce yourself;
• Learn about the needs of the interlocutor, clarify them if necessary;
• You make an offer;
• Make an appointment for a meeting.

Separate nuances are already selected for each specific area.

If your product or service is intended for business representatives, and not corporate clients, ask the interlocutor who in the company is authorized to respond to proposals like yours and contact this person. And then proceed according to the knurled scheme: defining the problem - your version of its solution - price issues - confirmation of interest. And use the necessary marketing moves - give information about discounts and other favorable conditions.

In practice, such telephone conversations look like this (example):

- Good afternoon, my name is ..., I am a representative of the company ..., we are selling stationery. Do you have time to talk?
Yes, I'm listening to you.
- Tell me, do you use forms for printing tax documents?
- Yes, we use it.
– That is, the purchase of such documents is relevant for you?
- Yes, that's right, what do you want to offer?
- Our company will be interested in cooperation in the supply of such forms for you. We are ready to discuss individual pricing policy and terms of cooperation.

Farther the conversation will go by itself, if the person is really interested in your offer. In case of refusal, try to find out its reason and offer an alternative option for cooperation. Do not hesitate to ask questions and have the interlocutor to feedback. This is the only way you can build a constructive dialogue.

Communication - greatest gift, which is given to us by nature and, with the right approach, can make our life wonderful. The ancient Romans elevated the ability to conduct a dialogue into the category of art. Nowadays, communication skills are directly related to success in business and in all other areas of life.

The specific features of modernity are somewhat distinguishable from the times of ancient civilizations. But some simple methodological tips will allow you to master the successful construction of any kind of conversation, whether it be business or everyday dialogue. By following these rules, you will win over the interlocutor, making the conversation productive and enjoyable in all respects.

The emotional component of communication

People are not machines. And an ordinary exchange of information is not a full-fledged communication in human society. Information in interaction with the emotional component is human communication.

Important!!!

Psychological analysis of future interlocutors is the most important component of success in the upcoming conversation

Based on this, preparation for dialogue involves general ideas about psychological type future interlocutor for productive emotional influence on him from your side. On the other hand, you will know what to expect from a dialogue partner. Knowledge of the interests of the other side will help in the conversation. By touching this topic, you will interest a person, and by choosing the tone and stylistic manner of speech, you will make the conversation mutually interesting and fruitful.

The right balance between storytelling and listening

The solution to this question directly affects the success or failure of the conversation. If the interlocutor is overly assertive in a conversation and throws out a huge amount of information at you, you don’t need to put up an emotional barrier (and even more so with a facial expression to show a negative attitude towards what is happening).

Important!!!

The correct ratio of information given and received in a conversation is the key to controlling the dialogue

Take into account the intention of the other party in this way to enter into close communicative contact with you. Sometimes the situation is radically opposite. Sluggish reaction of the interlocutor to your communicative activity. In this case, moderate your information boom and let the interlocutor express his point of view on the topics raised through leading questions. Thus, manage the conversation process, giving it the required direction.

Using the interlocutor's personal experiences in a conversation

Your interlocutor is an ordinary person who has everyday problems and inner experiences. Careful observation of behavioral moments during communication activities will allow you to make the necessary adjustments to the conversation. The expression of the eyes, facial expressions, tone of voice will tell you what problems your interlocutor is going through.

Gently ask about the reasons for experiencing with the manifestation of participation. If you have had similar problems in your life, this will bring you closer to the interlocutor and help you find mutual understanding in the conversation.

Here you need to be careful, because an excessive reminder of unpleasant situations in life can negatively affect the emotional mood of your communication partner. In this case, it is necessary to stop discussing this topic and switch to a neutral one in order to avoid irritability in the interlocutor and rethink the reasons for the manifestation of negative emotions in him.

Applying a Variety of Conversation Techniques

The correct facial expression, depending on the various stages of the conversation, is an important detail of communication actions. This will help you show your interest to the interlocutor through the shape of the line of the lips or the nod of the head, expressing empathy or agreeing with what was said.

Advice

Pay attention to gestures where they are appropriate to give a positive emotional impact. You can imperceptibly repeat the same movements as the interlocutor. This will subconsciously dispose him to you (here it is important not to go too far so that it does not look like a mockery).

How to communicate with people and develop communication skills

Conclusion:

Preparing for a conversation, analyze psychological portrait future interlocutor to control the conversation with the help of an emotional component. Listening and narration must be in the right balance. Use in dialogue life problem situations interlocutor, encouraging and giving practical advice with their permission from their practice. Use facial expressions and gestures to emotionally enhance your involvement in the conversation.

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The art of maintaining a conversation can come in handy in the most unexpected situations. At the first meeting, at a secular party, at an interview, and even business negotiations which take place in an informal setting. It would seem that it could be easier than talking about all sorts of nonsense. But for some reason, this simple task plunges many of us into a real stupor. And while we are numb, awkwardly silent, convulsively inventing unfunny jokes, all attention is attracted to those who keep themselves in an easy and casual manner. How to learn to have a small talk?

1. Relax

Remember like in the movies when main character in an exciting situation, he begins to clumsily fold his arms, frantically throw his legs over his legs, straighten his hair or remove invisible fibers from his jacket, trying with all his appearance to show that he is completely and completely relaxed. In order not to become the king of such comedies, learn to relax for real. Some help a couple of deep breaths, others - a couple of glasses of wine. That's just the last resort is better not to overdo it.

2. Dashing trouble start

Where to begin? It’s not about the weather to talk ... Although the habit of talking with strangers about the weather there is a perfectly reasonable explanation. Psychologists say that it is easiest to start a conversation with neutral topics that are related to the surrounding reality. And this is usually the weather or the place where the event is held. Look around, comment on the interior, the music playing, and maybe even one of the guests who especially attracts everyone's attention.

3. Keep your distance

It's time to remember school lessons ethics. The first contact should be made with the eyes. Each person has a personal zone, which it is better for a stranger not to invade. During a conversation, keep your interlocutor at about arm's length. And it is better to refrain from touching, approving pats on the shoulder and other intrusions into personal space that you can allow yourself to communicate with friends and loved ones.

4. Homework

Well, we discussed the weather and a wonderful evening in a purple sunset, what's next? Oftentimes, people get stuck in the initial stages of a conversation. If no one can develop the dialogue further, awkward long pauses begin, unfunny jokes are used, but they only aggravate the situation. What to talk about later, after the weather? It is worth preparing for this stage in advance. If you are going to an exhibition of paintings, then it would not be superfluous to spend at least 30 minutes studying the subject of the exhibition. Several little known facts can be presented to the interlocutor along with the phrase: "Did you hear that ..." and the continuation of the conversation will not take long. Facts are usually followed by an exchange of opinions and impressions. Thus, you can find a lot in common with the interlocutor.

5. Looking for common ground

By the way, it is the search for common themes, common interests, habits and passions - master key to establish a good first impression. Remember how easily young mothers or football fans of the same club find contact, and how easily two airborne officers find each other in an unfamiliar company! People like coincidences, and we feel much more comfortable in the company of the same, as they say, “our” people.

6. Avoid conflict

When starting a conversation, you should remember that there is a certain list of taboo topics. Indeed, in any large company there will always be both supporters and opponents of, say, this or that hockey club, slot machines, Orthodox fasting, etc. Therefore, in order not to get into trouble and not cause a furious dispute, smoothly turning into a scuffle, in order not to be in the center of a scandal and not ruin your evening, it is better to avoid topics such as politics, religion, reforms, war, and the like.

7. Technique secular bloodhound

Imagine yourself for a while as a true detective. Listening carefully to every word of your interlocutor, look for clear clues that will point you to his favorite topics of conversation. Having sensed the right trace, you can easily unravel the tangle of conversation, developing the threads of your interlocutor's favorite topics.

8. Not a day without news

Make it a rule not to leave the house without fresh news. The Internet space today allows you to be a well-versed interlocutor in almost any field. Only when you go looking for news, go to trusted sites so that the news is true, not fictional. But gossip is best left at home.

9. Don't Clog the Ether

Some of us are so terribly afraid of drowning the conversation with silence that we begin to non-stop commenting on everything we see and hear. And some, in their unceremonious brilliance, go even further - they begin to “shoot” jokes like a machine gun. But talkers usually get tired quickly, and endless jokes and witticisms in an unfamiliar company can look inappropriate and stupid. But a grateful listener is loved by almost all strangers. So keep that in mind and be able to strike a delicate balance between silence and chatter.

10. Change direction

It also happens that not you, but someone imposes their society and topics of conversation on you. For 5 minutes, you can still endure stories about the deep meaning of a large blot on a white sheet, but if the degree of patience goes off scale, then it becomes necessary to gently get rid of an unpleasant interlocutor. In this case, the phrase “Excuse me, I need to find one person” is perfect for leaving. But you can use another technique - to turn the tide of history and gently transfer the conversation to a topic of interest to you. Then the annoying interlocutor can leave himself.

Small Talk Generator

Recently, a comic small talk generator or a real nonsense generator, as it is also called, appeared on the Internet. You enter any word into the window and the program produces an incoherent tirade of nonsense with the addition of the entered word. A joke, of course, but you yourself know what is in every joke.

If you feel that an eloquent talker is not about you, and it’s not given to you to shine in public with eloquent grandiloquent arguments, then perhaps the following thought will console you: empty gossips can often wag their tongues at social events for hours, who elegantly merge into any company and so same elegantly and lightning fast, these same companies are changing. While many truly bright personalities often hang out in public. Great scientists, writers and even statesmen more than once they felt like little children when it was necessary to talk at ease about nonsense in secular society.

In general, probably main secret charm in relation to any situation lies in only one thing - in naturalness. Freeing your mind from prejudices and stereotypes is the only way to be an interesting person, regardless of the company and society.