When a person died what to say. How to help someone overcome the loss of a relative. condolences in writing

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We intuitively and subconsciously understand how to behave in joyful, light life situations and holiday events. But there are events of a tragic nature - death loved one, for example. Many are lost, faced with their unpreparedness for loss, for the majority such events are beyond acceptance and awareness.

People experiencing loss are easily vulnerable, acutely feel insincerity and pretense, their feelings are overwhelmed with pain, they need help to calm it down, accept it, reconcile it, but in no case add pain with an accidentally thrown tactless word, an incorrect phrase.

You need to be able to show increased tact and correctness, sensitivity and condescension. It is better to remain silent, showing a delicate understanding, than to cause additional pain, hurt disturbed feelings, hook on nerves overloaded with experiences.

We will try to help you understand how to behave in a situation where a person next to you has suffered grief - the loss of a loved one, how to condole and find words that make the person feel your support and sincere sympathy.

We must take into account the existing differences in condolences.

The form of expressing condolences for the loss will vary:

Grandparents, relative;
mother or father;
brother or sister;
son or daughter - child;
husband or wife;
boyfriend or girlfriend;
colleagues, employee.

Because the depth of experiences varies.

Also, the expression of condolences depends on the severity of the grieving person's feelings about what happened:

Imminent death due to old age;
inevitable death due to serious illness;
premature, sudden death;
tragic death, accident.

But there is the main, general condition, independent of the cause of the death that has come - the genuine sincerity of the expression of your grief.

The condolence itself should be short in form, but deep in content. Therefore, you need to find the most sincere words that accurately convey the depth of your sympathy and your willingness to provide support.

In this article, we will provide samples and examples various forms expressions of condolences, we will help you find mournful words.

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Form and method of filing

Condolences will be distinctive features according to the form and method of filing, depending on its purpose.

Purpose:

Personal condolences to family and friends.
Official individual or collective.
Obituary in the newspaper.
Farewell words of mourning at the funeral.
Funeral words at the wake: for 9 days, for the anniversary.

Submission method:

The timeliness factor is important, so the postal delivery method should only be used to send a telegram. Of course, the fastest way to express your condolences is to use modern communication tools: email, Skype, Viber ... but they are suitable for confident Internet users, and these should be not only senders, but also recipients.

Using SMS to show sympathy and empathy is acceptable only if there are no other opportunities for contact with a person, or if the status of your relationship is a distant acquaintance or formal friendship. Follow this link for different occasions.

Submission form:

In writing:

Telegram;
email;
electronic postcard;
an obituary is a piece of mourning in a newspaper.

In oral form:

In a telephone conversation;
in person.

In prose: suitable for writing and oral form expressions of grief.
In verse: Suitable for writing mourning.

Important highlights

All verbal condolences should be short in form.

Official condolences are more delicately expressed in writing. For this, a heartfelt verse is more suitable, to which you can pick up a photo of the deceased, corresponding electronic pictures and postcards.
Personal individual condolences must be exclusive, and can be expressed both verbally and in writing.
For the dearest and closest people, it is important to express or write mournful condolences in your sincere words, not formal, therefore, not stereotyped.
Since verses are rarely exclusive, exclusively yours, so listen to your heart, and it will prompt you with words of comfort and support.
Not only words of condolence should be sincere, but also an offer of any help that you can afford: financial, organizational.

Be sure to mention the distinctive personal virtues and character traits of the deceased person that you would like to keep in your memory forever as a model: wisdom, kindness, responsiveness, optimism, love of life, hard work, honesty.…

This will be an individual part of condolence, the main part of which can be formulated according to the approximate model proposed in our article.

Universal mournful texts

“Let the earth rest in peace” - this is a traditional ritual phrase that is said after a completed burial, it can be a condolence at a wake, suitable even for atheists.
"We all mourn your irreparable loss."
"Unspeakable pain from loss."
"Sincerely condolences and sympathy for your grief."
“Please accept my deepest condolences on the death of a loved one.”
“Let us keep in our hearts the bright memory of the deceased wonderful person.”

Help can be offered in the following ways:

“We are ready to share the burden of your grief, to be close to you and provide the necessary all possible assistance to you and your family.”
“Surely, you will need to solve a lot of questions. You can count on us, accept our help."

On the death of mother, grandmother

"The death of the closest person - mother - is an irreparable grief."
"The bright memory of her will forever be in our hearts."
“How much we did not have time to tell her during her lifetime!”
"We sincerely mourn and condole with you at this bitter moment."
"Hold on! In memory of her. She wouldn't want to see you in despair."

On the death of a husband, father, grandfather

“I offer my sincere condolences and express my deep sympathy for the death of a loved one who was a reliable support for you and your family.”
“In memory of this strong man, you must show resilience and wisdom in order to survive this grief and continue what he did not have time to complete.”
"We will carry a bright and kind memory of him through our lives."

On the death of a sister, brother, friend, loved one

“It hurts to realize the loss of a loved one, but it is even more difficult to come to terms with the departure of young people who have not known life. Everlasting memory!»
“Let me express my most sincere condolences on the occasion of a heavy, irreparable loss!”
“Now you have to become a support for your parents! Remember this and hold on!”
“God help you survive and endure the pain of this loss!”
“For the sake of your children, their peace and well-being, you need to cope with this grief, find the strength to live and learn to look to the future.”
"Death does not take away love, your love is immortal!"
"Blessed memory of a wonderful person!"
"He will forever remain in our hearts!"

If you are at a distance, find out via SMS. Select the appropriate message and send to the recipient.

On the death of a colleague

“We have worked side by side over the past few years. He was an excellent colleague and an example for young colleagues. His professionalism served as an example for many. You will forever remain in our memory as an example of life wisdom and honesty. May the earth rest in peace for you!
“Her/his dedication to her work earned her/him the respect and love of all who knew her/him. He/She will forever remain in my memory.”
“You were a wonderful collaborator and friend. How we will miss you. May the earth rest in peace for you!
"I can't bear the thought that you're gone. It seems like only recently we were drinking coffee, discussing work and laughing ... I will miss you, your advice and crazy ideas very much.

On the death of a believer

The text of condolences may contain the same mournful words as for a secular person, but an Orthodox Christian should add:

ritual phrase:

"Kingdom of heaven and eternal rest!"
"God is merciful!"

My dear, I am very sorry for your grief. Condolences ... Be strong!
My friend, I mourn your loss. I know this is a hard blow for you and your family. I offer my sincere condolences.
- A wonderful man is gone. My condolences to you, my dear, and to all your family at this sad and difficult moment.
This tragedy hurt all of us. But of course, it touched you the most. Accept my condolences.

How to condole in Islam (Muslims)?

It is Sunnah to express condolences in Islam. However, it is undesirable for the relatives of the deceased to gather in one place to accept condolences. The main purpose of expressing condolences is to call people who have suffered misfortune to patience and contentment with the predestination of Allah. The words that should be said when expressing condolences are: “May Allah grant you beautiful patience and may He forgive the sins of your deceased (your deceased).”

How to condole over the phone?

In the case when the words of condolence are pronounced over the phone, then you can (but not necessarily) add briefly: “Let the earth rest in peace!”. If you have the opportunity to provide assistance (organizational, financial - any), then it is convenient to complete the words of condolence with this phrase, for example, “These days you will probably need help. I would like to be helpful. Count on me to call anytime!

How do you deal with a person who is bereaved?

It is not necessary to grieve, cry with him, passing through someone else's suffering. You will be much more effective in your help if you act rationally, deliberately. One way to deal with loss is to talk about it repeatedly. In this case, strong emotions will react. You need to listen carefully to the person, answer his questions if necessary. Allowing a person to express his emotions, experiences. It can be tears, anger, irritation, sadness. You don't judge, you just listen carefully, you're there. Tactile contact is possible, that is, a person can be hugged, taken by the hand, the child can be put on his knees.

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Condolences. How can I sincerely express my condolences to the family of the deceased? Short words of grief over death and support in Hard time. "My condolences…"

Words of sorrow and support in difficult times

Sincere words of sorrow and delicate behavior express their readiness to share grief, to support their neighbor with their presence or common memory of the deceased. More importantly active participation, willingness to help, to give your time and efforts to a girlfriend or friend at a time when he is vulnerable, depressed and needs participation. Well, if you guess what exactly: in material assistance, organizational, physical. Maybe you need to give someone a lift or shelter for a couple of days. Offer your services for example:

How can I help you these days?
If/when you need anything, contact me right away!
A lot has happened to you right now. What can I do for you?
I think you might need help. I would like to participate.

My condolences…

How to find the right words to mourn? If you know the relatives of the deceased closely, then it is better to think of a more personal, personal sympathetic phrase. Thinking over the words of condolences, we recommend that you look. Each obituary ends with words of condolence from family and friends of the celebrity. We have given some words of condolences to celebrities at the end of this article. The site "Manufacture of monuments.ru" provides 100 specific examples words of mourning for death.

Accept my condolences!

Delicacy and sincerity- that's what you need to remember when uttering words of sympathy. In grief, the feeling of sincerity and falsehood intensifies. Feel free to pre-select, as well at homerepeatedlyaloudspeak out condolence phrase. This will allow the right moment not to think about the wording and concentrate on the person and the circumstances. Don't be ashamed of your feelings. I want to hug my girlfriend - touch her shoulder or hug, shake hands with a friend - shake. A tear rolled up - do not turn away, but brush it away. Take a bag of clean tissues with you - they may be useful to you or someone from those present.

Death is the final reconciliation... If you harbor a grudge against the deceased, find strength in yourself forgive. Having cleansed your soul and thoughts of negativity, the words of sympathy will sound from the heart, sincerely! If you had a conflict with the deceased, then sincere regret, an apology, a request for forgiveness will be in place.

Examples of a brief verbal condolence

Format verbal condolences context dependent. In a close circle, you can allow heartfelt. But at a funeral or, during parting with the body or at the funeral, only short sayings. Many more invitees should express their condolences.

[Name] was a man of great soul. We sincerely sympathize with you!
Be strong!/(Be strong, friend)!
He was a bright/kind/powerful/talented person. An example for all of us. We will always remember!
I loved him/(her)/[Name]. My condolences!
How much good she did to those around her! How she was loved, appreciated during her lifetime! With her passing, we lost a part of ourselves. We are very sorry for you!
This is a tragedy: we are in great pain at this hour. But you are the hardest! If there is anything we can do to help you, please contact us right away!
He meant/did/helped me a lot in my life. I grieve with you!
He left so much of his soul in all of us! It's forever as long as we're alive!
Our whole family sympathizes with your grief. Condolences ... Be strong!
His role in my life is huge! How small those disagreements that were, and the good and the deeds that he did for me, I will never forget. Condolences to you!
What a loss! God's man! I pray for him, I pray for all of you!
What a pity that I did not have time to say “I'm sorry!” to him. He opened for me new world and I will always remember this! Sincere condolences!

religious condolence

Is it right to express condolences using religious rhetoric? When is it appropriate, and when is it not appropriate to refer to quotations from sacred books? How should you use the words of prayers if you express your condolences to a person of a different faith or an atheist?

If a and condoling, and mourning - atheists or agnostics, then resorting to religious rhetoric is not worth it. Ideas short phrases sympathy can be gleaned from the section.
If a person, who lost a loved one is a believer, but you are not, then briefly addressing the topic of a better life in the other world will be correct, but the use of church language will seem false. Phrase ideas can be found in the section.
On the contrary, when the mourner is an atheist or agnostic, and you are a believer, then an appeal on your part to or to the dogmas of your religion will look like a sincere form of sympathy. The only thing that matters is the measure.
If both you and the bereaved - both co-religionists, then the appeal to common sources, general and observance of the canonical rites of commemoration are appropriate.

Even if the mourner himself is a lover of rhyme, yet a moment of condolence is bad time for your own poetry.
The poetic text in the context of condolences is devalued and can be perceived as verbal exercises during grief.
If it is popular, then it is already exotic, and condolence verses is the risk of being misunderstood.

Condolence SMS? No.

The message may come at the wrong time.
Even if your condolences are laconic, the very image of the SMS channel suggests the transmission of facts, not feelings.
If you are sending condolences by sms, then you have a phone in your hand. Was it difficult to call? - that's what a person who has suffered a loss will think about.
If you do not meet in person in the coming days, then express condolences by phone or email.

What, condolences, you can not say?

Comfort with the prospect. Pain is here and now, and against its background, turning to the future is either showing one's tactlessness, or injuring a loved one, or, at least, being unheard or misunderstood. The words are inappropriate: “Everything will be fine ...”, “Don’t worry, you will get married in a couple of years”, “Everything will pass, and this pain too”, “Time heals ...”, “Nothing, you are young, you will give birth”, “I wish you faster endure the grief...
Demonstrate positive circumstances associated with the loss. Examples of tactless phrases: “Be strong, friend! After all, it happens (somehow / worse / worse ...) ”,“ With such torment, death is a relief ”,“ It’s good that at least (something worse) didn’t happen ”,“ The child will have his own room ”,“ You there is an opportunity (to do something).
Point to the culprit, "find the extreme". For example, “God gave - God took”, “If you ... (would go to the doctor), would not let him go, listen to advice ...”, “Such doctors are on trial”, “With his lifestyle, it’s not surprising.”
Do not ask how and under what circumstances it is happened. Now is not the time or place to ask for details.
Should not be in these moments talk about any topic not related to the experience. Not about work, not about common acquaintances, not about any extraneous topics.
Do not appeal to your experience even if you have had a similar grief. “Girlfriend, I know how hard it is for you, I also lost ...”, even if said sincerely, in a moment of grief it can be perceived inadequately.
Intrusive or banal advice, such as “You must live for the sake of ...”, “You need to calm down, wait out the time”, etc. - all this is stupid and unnecessary in moments of grief.

All "impossible" not to list. Be guided by common sense, a sense of proportion, be sincere and sympathetic. Be brief, concise. Remember that sometimes it is better to remain silent and refrain than to talk nonsense or be tactless.

How to write a condolence letter

It is not always possible to express condolences in person, and then in the very first days after death, a letter of sympathy should be sent.

Condolence letter on a postcard appropriate as an addition to a discreet mourning bouquet (red, white colors) or together with some amount of money, if it is, say, an allowance or just financial assistance from an enterprise. Design matters: you can’t write condolences on a bright holiday or greeting card. Use special ones, or take an absolutely neutral postcard with a discreet design.

Condolence Email should also be concise, sincere, but restrained. The title should already contain words of condolence. So, it is incorrect to indicate in the subject line “Condolences on the death of such and such”, but it would be correct: “[Name], condolences to you on the death of your father / (mother).” Before pressing the "send" button, read the condolence through the eyes of the grieving. It should be short, to the point, without frivolity or faux pas. Below are examples of written condolences.

Examples of written condolences

Sample condolence letter for mum's death

Dear/Dear [Name],

It was difficult for us to accept the news of the death of your / your mother, [Name-Patronymic of the deceased]. The more we empathize with your/your loss. We deeply mourn the death of [First Name]. For us, she has always been an example of care, sensitivity, attention to others. (or other inherent in the deceased positive traits) and conquered both with a good disposition and philanthropy. We are very sad for her and can only guess what a heavy blow her passing was for you / you. More than once we remembered her words: [such and such]. And in this she served as a model of [something], thanks to her we became / understood [what the deceased influenced us]. Your mother, [First Name], raised and raised you / you - a worthy person, whom, we are sure, she was proud of. We are happy that we got to know her.

With deep and sincere sympathy, the [So-and-so] family

Condolence email template for mother's death

email header:[Name], condolences to you on the death of [Name-Patronymic]!

Text of the letter: Dear [Name]! Today I learned with sadness about the death of your mother, [Name-Patronymic]. It's hard to believe - after all, not so long ago she cordially received us as a guest. I remember her as (positive qualities of the deceased) . It's hard for me to imagine the depth of grief you're going through right now. Sincere condolences!

Perhaps these days you will have troubles associated with mourning events. I want to offer you my help: maybe you need to meet someone, help with a car or notify someone ... Contact me! I would like to help in this difficult moment for all of us!

I empathize with your loss! Signature.

Condolences on the death of your father

The structure of the letter (postcard, email) of condolences on the death of the father girlfriend or boyfriend - the same as in the case of condolences on the death of the mother (see above). However, society appreciates a few different qualities in a man than in a mother or wife. Words and phrases relevant to express condolences on the death of the pope, the head of the family are listed below. If more accurate words of comfort come to mind that reflect the features of this particular person, then it is better to use them.

As soon as I met your father, on the same day I realized that this is a person [of such and such qualities]
He was a real man, a responsible head of the family and a caring person.
I didn't know your father personally, but I can imagine how much he meant to you.
He was an example for me in this and that.
He admired everyone with his foresight, erudition, and sharp mind.
I realized that I knew little about him. When the time is right, tell me more about your dad!
Knowing you, I can guess how much your father gave to the family and children!

Samples of condolences on the death of a friend, colleague

Condolences to a colleague, employee, subordinate - not only a sign of good relations in the team, but also an element of business ethics in a healthy company. Condolences to a colleague are expressed in the same way as condolences to a friend, relative, person close to you. The examples below highlight in professional status- boss, responsible specialist, prominent official, public figure ...

With deep regret I learned about the tragic / untimely / sudden death of the president of your company, Mr. [Surname-Name-Patronymic]. His contribution to the formation/development/prosperity of your company is well known and indisputable. The management of [Company name] and our colleagues, saddened by the bitter news, convey their condolences on the loss of a respected and talented leader.
Let me express to you our deepest feelings over the death of [position] Ms. [Last Name, First Name, Patronymic]. Her professionalism, competence and dedication earned her the genuine respect of all who worked with her. Please accept our sincere condolences to your grief and sympathy for your irreparable loss.
Deeply shocked by the news of the death of [position, Name-Patronymic]. Let me express my most sincere sympathy to you personally and to all the employees of your company. My colleagues, upon learning of the tragedy/grief/misfortune, share deep regret at his/her passing.

Grief is something that hits all of us sometime, and we rely on the support of friends to get through it to the end. Being a patient listener, being a trustworthy person and making good suggestions to help is the most effective ways support those who are dealing with loss. While there is nothing you can do to speed up the grieving process, you can be a shining light to guide your friend through the darkest of times. See Step 1 and beyond for what to say and do.

Steps

Know what to say

Recognize what happened. Death is not something that is easy to talk about, and many people have problems when it is brought up. But going off topic because it's embarrassing for you won't help your friend. You may think that talking about other topics will be good fun, but it won't be easy for your grieving friend to laugh at jokes or talk about things. Ignoring the big problem there is no way in your friend's life to support him or her, so be brave enough to bring up the topic instead of awkwardly acting like it didn't happen.

Express sympathy. Tell a friend how sorry you are that his or her relative has died. Talking to your friend about how sorry you are and that you love him or her will help your friend feel comforted. Hugging or touching his or her shoulder can also help convey your empathy for what your friend is going through. Say the words "I'm sorry."

If you knew a person who passed away, share your memories of this person with your friend and list good qualities this person. Memories of good things associated with this person can help your friend feel a little better about the loss they are going through.
If you and your friend are religious, offer to pray for him/her and his/her family. If they are not religious, say what you think of them and deeply regret their loss.

Be sincere. Because death is so difficult to talk about, it can be difficult to express your true feelings for your friend. But the clichés people say to make talking about death easier aren't really helpful. If you tell your friend how you really feel, you will sound more sincere, and your friend will be more likely to reach out to you when he or she needs someone to listen.
- Avoid saying things like "She's in the best place or "She wants you to be happy right now." You don't really know that, do you? These empty statements don't help much.
- If you're having trouble putting your feelings into words, it's okay to say something like, "I just don't know what to say. I can't express how sorry I am."
Ask how the person feels. One might assume this is going to be a general question, but many people are a bit afraid to ask or simply don't want to deal with the answer. When your friend is at work or with acquaintances, he or she is probably pretending that everything is fine. That's why being a friend of a person and giving him or her the opportunity to talk can be very helpful. You must be willing to accept your friend's answer, even if it's hard to hear.
- Some people don't want to be asked how they feel. If your friend doesn't seem to want to talk about it, don't push him or her to say more.
- If your friend decides to open up, encourage him or her to talk for as long as it helps. Don't try to change the subject or add mood to the conversation; just let the person be expressive and let go of all the emotions he or she would normally hold back.
Don't judge. Let the person be himself, no matter what that means. Each person reacts differently to the loss of a relative, and there really is no right or wrong way to feel. Even if your friend has a reaction that you think you wouldn't have, it's important that the person express their feelings without being judgmental.
- Be prepared to get to know your friend in a deeper light and see that he or she acts in ways that you wouldn't. Despair and grief can flare up in different ways. Your friend may feel denial, anger, numbness, and a million other emotions in response to his or her grief.
Don't say "time heals". Time may ease the pain at first, but when a close relative dies, life will never be the same again. The idea that time heals makes one think that there is a time limit after which people should feel "normal" again, but for many people this never happens. Instead of focusing on helping the person "get over" his or her grief, focus on being a source of support and joy in that person's life. Never pressure your friend to mourn faster.
- Forget the "five stages of grief." There is no actual time frame for grief, and everyone experiences it differently. Thinking of grief as a series of stages can be helpful for some, but for many people it just doesn't work. Don't push your friend to any deadline.
Don't say "you're so brave". This general sentiment sounds caring, but it can make people who are grieving feel worse. This is because by calling someone brave, you make them think as if you expect them to proudly overcome everything, even when they suffer. When someone has lost a relative, he may go through a period where he will stumble and fall. A good friend like you shouldn't expect someone to act bold all the time when his or her world has just been turned upside down.

Find out what to do
1. Handle tears with care. People are very vulnerable when they cry. How you react when your friend cries can either really help, or really hurt. The best way cope with tears - accept them with love, not with embarrassment or disgust. Know that your friend is going to cry from time to time, and be prepared to treat his tears in a positive, useful way, rather than making him or her feel worse.
  - Think ahead about how you will react if your friend cries while you are together. Get ready to hug him or her while still maintaining eye contact and stay for as long as necessary.
  - If you leave the room, make an inadvertent joke, or interrupt the conversation, it can make the person feel uncomfortable because they've been crying.
2. Reply to messages. Being reliable is more important than ever when your friend is going through the loss of a relative. Answering phone calls or calling back is very important. Make sure you reply to messages of any kind when your friend is in mourning. If you tend to have to turn it down often, make the extra effort to be present for your friend.
  
  Help. Ask your friend how you can help make things easier during the first few months after his or her relative has died. Don't just say, "Let me know if there's anything I can do to help"; many people will say those words, and they usually don't really intend to get involved. If you really want to make a difference, ask about specific things you can start doing to make life a little easier for your friend and his or her family. Here are a few things you could do:
  - Cook food or bring food to your friend and his family. Or, if you're not very good at the kitchen, you could buy food and bring it to them.
  - visit them
  - Do household chores
  - Take care of this person's pets
  - Get this person's homework
  - Make phone calls to inform people about the loss of a person
3. Find small ways to be thoughtful. A good way to express your support for your friend is to show your friend that you are thinking of him or her. Try to be more thoughtful than usual. Small ways you show your friend that you care can be meaningful heart-to-heart conversations. Try doing the following:
  - Make cookies or bake a cake
  - Take the person to the movies or go for a walk in the park
  - Send a meaningful postcard in the mail
  - Write to this person more often
  - Include the person in social activities
  - Give the person gifts periodically
4. Be patient and understanding. Your friend may not be the same for a long time. He or she may appear sad, distracted, or slightly less energetic for months or even years after a close relative dies. Being a good friend means staying in a friendship even when someone is going through big changes, and if you love your friend, you won't wait for him or her to "bounce back" - you will be there.

Hello dear readers! When loved ones die, loved ones are great tribulation which is very difficult to bear. At this moment, words of participation, words of support from people around are important. But not all people know how to express condolences. The advice of experts collected in this article will help you.

mourning words

Condolence- these are sympathetic words of grief that are expressed to a person who has suffered a loss. On a subconscious level, we approximately know how to behave in pleasant life situations, what words to say on holidays, birthdays. And we don’t know what to say about death, we are immediately lost, especially when we are not ready for such a loss.

For most people, such events are difficult to understand and accept, so words are not immediately found that could help a person come to terms with the death of a loved one.

We all understand that those people who have suffered a loss are so vulnerable that they feel any insincerity in words.

At this moment, they are looking for participation, support, so it is important to follow the phrases so that an accidentally escaped word does not add heartache.

Sometimes it is better to remain silent, come up, just hug a person, thereby showing your sympathy and understanding of the loss.

We will try to help you in choosing the right words that will give the person a sense of your support and sincere sympathy.

In your words, depth, sincerity, readiness to help should be heard. A heartbroken person will not be able to understand your long speech, so the words of grief should be short, but capacious.

It is important to sympathize personally in a timely manner, send a telegram or send SMS. But you can resort to SMS only as a last resort. SMS fails to convey the sincerity of your participation. Do not choose template texts, it is better to write from the heart, in your own words.

Find short words comfort, support. You can compose a verse, but on the first day of the death of a person close to someone, you are unlikely to find understanding. If you are relatives, you are obliged to remember all the anniversaries of death. By the first anniversary, you can write your sincere verse next to the photograph of the deceased. It will be appropriate!

In connection with the death of any person in a cemetery or at a memorial table, speeches must be made. In this case, mention the virtues of the deceased.

Say that it will be hard not to remember him when you complete a project he has not finished or when you go fishing, barbecue, and so on.

If this is a woman, then say that bachelorette parties will not take place without her or there will be no one to take the embroidery pattern from. There is something good and sincere to say about every person.

Famous mournful phrases

“Let the earth rest in peace” - is pronounced immediately after the burial or at the commemoration.
"The pain of loss cannot be expressed in words."
"Sincerely condolences and sympathy for your grief."
"Please accept my sincere condolences on the death of a loved one."
“Let us keep in our hearts the bright memory of the deceased.”

Help Offers

Help can be offered to everyone: a friend, colleagues, acquaintances. How to offer help:

“We will always be by your side, we will provide all possible assistance to you and your family.”
"When resolving issues that may arise these days, you can count on our help."
"I'll be there, count on my help."

Sorrowful words of support at the death of a grandmother, mother

I share your pain of loss, I experience with you, I remember ___ in the most sincere words!
It's hard to accept the loss! It hurts to think that __ is not with us, but a bright memory will always remind us of her!
In memory of your mother, you must (should) hold on. She will always take care of you. Everlasting memory ___!

On the death of father, grandfather

“Accept my sincere condolences, I deeply sympathize, I worry with you. Father (grandfather) was a real support for you and your family.
“Your father was a strong personality. In memory of him, you must show wisdom, endure great sorrow, to continue what he did not complete"
“We will carry the good memory of this bright man through our whole lives.”

How to Express Condolences on the Death of a Husband

Condolences from the bottom of my heart! You walked side by side through life, hand in hand, and now you got this bitter loss. You need to hold on for the sake of the children, find the strength in yourself to survive the most hard days your life. I will be your support. Be strong!
The loss is irreparable, but God will give strength to endure this grief. We will keep the brightest memory of __!
It's hard to find words to console you. The loss is irreparable, but we will always be there, you know that!
For the sake of your children, their well-being, peace of mind, you need to find the strength in yourself to cope with immeasurable grief. We must live, your love is not dead, it is immortal!
Eternal memory to a bright, kind person!

On the death of a friend, brother

It is difficult to come to terms with the loss of a young guy who has not known the many joys of life. Eternal memory to him!
You must become a double support to your parents, for yourself and for your brother. Hold on, be strong, support your parents
He has not left our hearts, we will remember him as long as we are alive!

Condolences to relatives

Please accept our sincere condolences. It hurts to say, it is impossible to reconcile. Bright memory!
Any words will not resurrect a loved one, but we are always there. Everlasting memory!
What man left this world! The grief is immeasurable. She lived modestly, and left, quietly and modestly, as if a candle had burned out. Heavenly kingdom to her!

These short mourning words can be sent in writing by ordering a telegram or by writing SMS.

Condolences to a friend

Your grief is my grief. I am ready to share with you the bitterness of loss and always come to the rescue. Count on me! Let's pray together for the soul of the deceased!
You are in pain now, but time heals, and I am ready to support you with everything I can. You can rely on me, count on my help!
A friend didn't want you to sag. Be strong for your friendship and count on my support. I will share your grief!
I'm truly sorry! But you have to hold on, a friend looks down from heaven and supports you. Be strong!

words of support for a friend

Girlfriend, I will pray for the repose of the soul __ with you. Prayer will help you get through this grief!
Your grief shook me to the core. I suffer with you. I am grateful to fate for allowing me to meet such a wonderful person as your mother.
Please accept my condolences and deep respect for your deceased father. It is difficult to find words when I see you lost from the bitterness of loss. I will always be there, let's pray for him together.
I was shocked by this terrible news. I will never forget with what joy she greeted the guests, she was a kind and reliable friend for everyone. I sympathize and cry with you!

Words of consolation to a colleague

I am overwhelmed by the death of someone close to you. I will pray for his soul.
Please accept our most sincere condolences. May God reward her for good deeds on earth, and we will pray.
This tragedy shocked us, we sincerely worry and offer our help.
We are shocked by this sad news. We find it hard to believe that you are no longer with a close, dear person. We share with you the bitterness of loss, sincerely mourn with you. Everlasting memory!
It is hard to lose loved ones, but the death of a mother is the greatest grief in the world. We grieve with you!

Short words on the occasion of the death of loved ones

Condolence examples:

I was shocked by the incredible news. It is impossible to accept and reconcile. Hold on!
I share with you the pain of loss.
The announcement of his death was a terrible blow. I empathize with you.
The deceased meant a lot to us. Let's remember and honor!
Grief can confuse the mind. Hold on, the dead would not approve of your tears.

Mourning words for Muslims and Orthodox

Muslim we should not say the usual words for us. They have their own traditions, their own faith. We must respect other faiths and cultures.

May Allah forgive all the sins of your deceased, make good your consolation!
May Allah reward you with more rewards, relief in difficult situations!
May Allah forgive the sins of your deceased!
May Allah have mercy on him!

How to Express Condolences Orthodox?

What a loss! God's man! I pray for the repose of his soul, I pray for all of you!
The world is bright to his ashes.
Rest in the Kingdom of Heaven.
Rest in peace.
Kingdom of heaven and eternal rest!
God is merciful!
Lord, rest with the Saints!

In parting: the sage of antiquity Cicero said: "The life of the dead continues in the memory of the living." Remember your loved ones, honor their memory while you are alive and pass this on to your children!