The main thing in the life of every person is to be happy. Almost every woman, as a rule, associates this condition with love relationships. If she loves and is loved, then she is happy. If she does not have a relationship with a man, then she is unhappy, and it cannot be otherwise.
Exit wait state
And here it is important to understand that this is not so. That the feeling of happiness can be completely unrelated to whether she has a beloved man at this stage in her life or not.Since her early youth, she has been dreaming that her happiness will begin only at that wonderful moment when the main man of her life, who is destined by fate, enters her life. And this expectation of the betrothed sometimes stretches for many years. This desire becomes an obsession. And it is impossible to change this inner attitude by any effort of the will. However, the girl does not try to change her. Indeed, how to be happy without a man? Is it possible?
Happiness and relationships are independent of each other
Agree, often you refuse some pleasures - trips to the sea, New Year celebrations with friends, etc. - just because you do not have a beloved man. “When He appears, then it’s another matter, together we will catch up, and I will finally be happy!” - you think.Thus, a woman makes the degree of happiness dependent on her obsession. And if it is not carried out, disappointment, dissatisfaction with life settle in the soul for a long time.
However, to associate your happiness with the appearance of a man in your life means to be in a dead end. You feel unloved, unwanted. Alas, this is obvious to others, and this does not give you a chance to attract a man into your life.
First of all, you need to learn to be happy every moment of your life, and with yourself, first of all. Inspire yourself: “Even if fate so desires that she will never give me a beloved man, I will still live a full, happy life!”
How to become happy and loved?
We need to get active! All in your hands.- Don't be afraid to visit alone. If you try a little, you will soon become the soul of the company, get new friends, the circle of acquaintances will expand. Visit clubs, restaurants, gyms, exhibitions, theaters with friends or alone - there is nothing wrong with that if you are not insecure and confident.
- Without waiting for the appearance of a loved one in your life, try to travel around interesting places, gain fresh impressions - you will experience a lot of positive emotions, get a powerful charge of positive, and ... feel happy!
- Find yourself a new hobby: start drawing, read books on psychology, go in for cooking - it's very fashionable now.
- Spend more time on your appearance, adjust your style of dressing.
Life must be filled
You should determine: what, besides love, can make you happy? Maybe you would like to have your own apartment, build a house, earn a lot, make a career. List all these desires in your mind, and then ask yourself the question: “What can I do, right today, to bring at least one of these desires closer to the realization?” Most likely, you yourself will immediately be afraid of the audacity of this question. But the rational grain will be laid in your subconscious.Never give up on a dream. You just need to daily, how to be filled with it, think about it, about what you can do to make it happen. It will make you more purposeful and your life more fulfilling, meaningful and happy.
You need to learn to fill yourself with happiness from what is happening in your life today.
The main thing is to make a firm decision to be happy here and now, and from now on, all your actions will be aimed at finding this feeling - happiness.
Every time you wake up in the morning, repeat to yourself: “Today is the happiest day of my life!” Believe me, this formula works great.
Yesterday I received a link to this lecture in LiveJournal. I love listening to Narushevich, for his pleasant voice, for some kind of subtlety, but then I was puzzled .. At first I thought that it would be about feminism and other things, but when I started listening, I just constantly smile, agree with many things ....
It all boils down to the fact that a woman must generate female energy. You have to feed yourself. It doesn't matter if you're in a relationship or not. Good or bad for you. We need "food", we need energy fullness. Without which a woman, whether she is beautiful and well-groomed, is difficult to call a woman. After all, what distinguishes a woman. Answer: femininity ... Yin.
In general, I began to listen to a very interesting series of lectures aimed at the concept of the essence of femininity. About wrong behavior, about mistakes, about how and what you need to do in life to be harmonious and happy. If I have time, I will take notes of the lectures I have listened to and make notes to myself. If I happened to be a woman, then I need to carry my essence with dignity, having previously understood and accepted it in my heart ...
Ruslan Narushevich. "How and why to become happy without the help of men."
Ruslan Narushevich is a professional astrologer from Riga.
Born in January 1967 in Ventspils, Latvia. During the period of study at school, interest in popular astrology was shown. Since 1991, studying at the Latvian State University majoring in English Language and Literature, teaching at school. At the same time, there is an acquaintance with the Vedic culture.
Knowledge of English language and the desire to help people leads to the beginning of a serious study of Vedic psychology and astrology.
Since 1996, he has been giving popular science lectures on the Vedic scriptures, and conducting personal consultations on Vedic psychology and astrology.
He is married and has two wonderful children.
Lesson 1 - A must do! 9.10.2008
Lesson 2 - And this is a must! 23.10.2008
Lesson 3 - And it must be done! 11/06/2008
Lesson 4 - And it must be done! 11/20/2008
Lesson 5 - Ask questions, learn more. 04.12.2008
Recordings of the live radio broadcast "Ayurveda Radio". This cycle of radio broadcasts is especially recommended for women, girls, girls.
1. Go for a massage.
2. Wear skirts.
3. Get a manicure.
5. Take up dancing.
6. Sign up for the pool.
7. Go to a cooking class.
8. Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers. (Flowers instantly make a woman happy - they take away negative energy)
9. disassemble wardrobe(divide all things into 4 categories: leave, throw away, give away, I don’t know yet)
10. Make a plan for the next day, week or month.
11. Go to yoga classes (it is desirable that the instructor is a married woman)
12. Ask a stranger to carry your bag.
13. Buy yourself a new outfit.
14. Sign up for singing lessons.
15. Visit a hairdresser.
16. Long talk with a friend (on the phone or meet her).
17. Set aside time for a walk - by yourself or with friends.
18. Listen to your favorite music.
19. Lie in the bath with aroma oils, rose petals, salt.
20. Go shopping - you don't have to buy anything (be sure to take a friend with you - so that she photographs you in the outfits that you try on)
21. Get together with friends and do all sorts of nonsense.
22. Go to a psychologist (preferably a female psychologist)
23. Invite friends and have a dinner party.
24. Participate in the life of the child's kindergarten or school.
25. Participate in charity.
26. Offer to help a friend.
28. Set aside regular time to go out with friends.
29. Set up a feeder.
30. Visit the SPA center.
31. Engage in the cultivation of flowers (preferably fruit-bearing or edible plants).
32. Go to the art museum.
33. Keep a diary of thoughts and feelings.
34. Make a photo album of your photos or baby photos.
35. Sit with a friend's child.
36. Watch a movie at the cinema.
37. Selflessly participate in the work of medical institutions. Help other people.
38. Compliment other women.
39. Learn new skills (jangle, embroider, knit, do different crafts)
40. Send a postcard (with or without a reason)
41. Sign up for a florist class.
42. I invited (to hire) a person who would fix all the minor breakdowns in the apartment
43. Go to the bookstore - just flip through the books, see the new items.
44. Chat with happy married women.
45. Arrange a weekend trip out of town with friends, not particularly reporting where you will go.
46. Participate in holidays, parades, costume processions.
47. Invite someone to help you with cleaning, shopping, cooking.
48. Sign up for a theater class.
49. Have a picnic.
50. Form a club of young mothers or join existing clubs
51. Feed hungry people.
53. Watch fashion magazines, with models of knitted things, with interiors.
54. Staying up to date with friends (feeling of complicity)
55. Participate in spiritual and religious events.
56. Watch a movie or series with your girlfriend (children are allowed).
57. Be interested in Vedic or any other culture (cuisine, interior, traditions).
58. Spend some time on the coast.
59. Learn to ski.
60. Participate in women's rights rallies (for manicures, for more toilets)
61. Go to a convent, find a woman there, so that you can trust her, find spiritual fellowship.
62. Sign up for courses on proper nutrition, healthy eating.
63. Use environmentally friendly household chemicals.
64. Listen to a speech by the author of a book you like.
65. Send photos of your family to friends and girlfriends.
66. Sign up for a circle of painting, modeling.
67. Change your hair color.
68. Invite your friends and girlfriends to show them your photo album.
69. Go out with friends to chat and sit in a cafe.
1. Approval of others
What difference does it make what they think of you? If you are happy with the decisions you have made, then you have made the right choice, no matter what others say. Imagine how much effort you spend trying to read other people's minds, and still do not guess.
Listen to advice - please, but do not let others decide how you live.
2. Anger and resentment
The next time you catch yourself feeling this way, think about this: “Would I like to be the person I envy?” Certainly not, you love yourself (even if somewhere very deep inside).
You are looking at someone else's life that you do not know. You have no idea what this person is thinking. Maybe when he dives into the pool of his private house, he hates himself or is wildly afraid of something? Maybe you, walking through the forest on a sunny day, experience much more pleasure than he does, basking on the snow-white sand in the Maldives?
Stop looking at others. If you feel good now, then everything is right. If not, make it good.
16. Uncertainty
Happy people tend to have self-esteem (just don't confuse it with an inflated ego). They are pleased with themselves and exude confidence.
There is no reason to doubt yourself. If you have traits that you hate, there are two ways: accept them or change them. In every person there is everything at once: a libertine, and a puritan, and a lying bastard, and a gentleman. You choose who you will be.
17. Dependence on others
No one will fill the void within you. No one will make you positive and self-sufficient if you are unhappy with your fate. To share your happiness with someone else, you must first become happy yourself. So do not even hope that your success is in the wrong hands. Only in yours.
18. Past
Living in the past means burying your present. There were mistakes - okay, who didn't? Arrange a magnificent funeral for your memories, remember only the lessons and.
19. Total control
Sometimes you just need to relax and let life take its course. You can't control everything and you have to deal with it. Otherwise, you will be constantly nervous, but in the end you still won’t change anything. There are just things that are out of your control. They must be accepted as they are.
20. Expectations
People think that others should live up to their expectations. That's bullshit. Nobody owes you anything, and you don't owe anything either. No one should be polite, attentive, accurate, honest, pleasant in communication, clean, after all. Nothing should be perfect, amazing, unforgettable, but it can be. If it does, great, if not, don't worry. Be ready to accept everything that life sends you, and you will find happiness.
- Tell me, this is my first time in this city, does this tram go to the station?
- Yes.
- So, I sat down correctly?
- Yes. Only now he is going in the other direction, at least sit there with your face.
M. Zhvanetsky
We have already talked about joy. Remember the exercises “please yourself”, “please yourself in a new way”? Do you remember the piggy bank of joys that was opened on Victory Day?
It's a pity we didn't get much into it. I expected more. Can't we be happy? Unlearned?
Are you waiting, like many other women (and men too, but we are not talking about them now), when happiness will finally turn to you? If you are waiting, I want to tell you this: most people are unhappy because they have misconceptions about happiness. They think, even are sure, that some outstanding event is about to happen - and they will become happy. Do you think so too?
One of my acquaintances, to whom I recently told that I was happy, asked me: “What happened?” How can I answer such a question? I don't know... If the question is put incorrectly, I don't know how to answer it.
Once I also thought: in order to be happy, something grandiose must happen in my life. Something wonderful.
At first I thought that when I get big and go to school, a new, beautiful and happy life. Then I thought (it’s funny to think about it now) that I need to join the pioneers - the pioneers with red ties around their necks seemed to me very happy. Then I thought that I needed to finish school - and then happiness would certainly look to me too. Finish college... Marry for love... Have a baby... Good job- can she be happy? Your own apartment? Car? What else needs to happen in my life for me to be happy????
Now I know for sure: you can have all the treasures of the world, have a wonderful family, a job - and yet NOT FEEL HAPPY! I'm even going to explain to you in one of the next newsletters. WHY it's impossible.
Happiness comes with ABILITY to please yourself. Great, even great happiness is just many, many small joys plus the ABILITY to rejoice.
Most people, in vain expecting that happiness will suddenly turn to face them, go through life - as in Zhvanetsky's well-aimed joke - in the opposite direction from happiness. And where happiness lives, they don’t even turn their faces. Alas.
You know, a wonderful psychologist, an Ayurvedic specialist in family happiness, Ruslan Narushevich, has prepared a gift for you (and me too): a list of 69 pleasant things that a woman can and should do to be happy. If you do these things, then life will become more pleasant and joyful - I guarantee!
In addition to the list, Ruslan conducted as many as 5 (!) programs on Ayurveda radio, in which he explained in detail not only WHAT a woman should do, but also HOW and WHY.
Ruslan spoke about the differences in male and female psychology, and about why a man can make a woman happier, but cannot make her HAPPY.
I highly recommend that you look at the list and listen to the recordings. They are online for FREE! And the name of the program cycle is so magnificent: How and why to become happy without men!
To receive a gift, you just need to go here:
My advice to you: record your audio on the player. This is very practical in the current perpetual lack of time. Then you can listen to the recordings anywhere: on the beach by the sea, weeding beds in the country, in public transport, in a traffic jam, in line at a store or a hairdresser. You will be able to usefully and pleasantly spend time that was previously lost for you.
