Attentive person will not disregard the sensual experiences of another. Why? Because experiences, or excitement, are behaviors that go beyond the usual. Therefore, at all times people have been interested in recognizing the signs of such sensations and their causes. Since ancient times, mankind has invented various ways to find out that a person is worried. To better understand the topic, you need to understand why we all get a wave of unpleasant feelings from time to time.
Why are we worried?
There can be many reasons for excitement. This can be a period of acute love, when one thought about the subject of love makes the heart beat faster. A person is acutely experiencing the expectation of a meeting with the object of love, and when meeting with him, the excitement, as they say, can go off scale.
Or a person may worry in anticipation of the unknown - for example, before meeting a stranger or before an event that goes beyond the ordinary. This feeling can be pleasant (for example, waiting for the moment of marriage or the wedding night) or unpleasant (for example, waiting for a plane flight, if you are basically afraid of heights).
Often a person is worried when he does wrong or tells a lie. However, many people experience a sense of anxiety even when they need to defend their innocence. How to understand where is one, where is the other, and in general, how do you determine that a person is very worried?
What unites these signs?
If we combine all these cases, we can conclude that excitement overtakes us in those moments when we are not confident in ourselves. Therefore, it has always been important for human relationships to understand the cause of this feeling, whether it is one's own or a manifestation of another person's anxiety.
In this case, if someone behaves differently, how do you determine that the person is very worried?
This question has always preoccupied humanity.
One of the causes of a person's excitement is a lie. Therefore, since the first human communities began to form, it has become extremely important to identify lies. Why? In the Bible, the enemy of God, Satan, is called the father, that is, the progenitor of lies (the word "Satan" is translated as "adversary", and the second well-known nickname of this spiritual person is "devil", "slanderer"). Therefore, it was important for the first people on earth to identify those who did not live according to the laws of God, but according to the laws of his opponent and slanderer, for such people necessarily became criminals.
That is why the first statesmen human society there were not presidents and not even kings, but judges.
One way to identify the perpetrator is to look for signs of agitation. For example, how do you determine that a person is very worried, visually? His mouth tends to dry out, his face reddens, and his hands tremble.
In antiquity, for example, in Ancient China a suspected lie was given a handful of dry rice in his mouth at the time the accusation was read out. If the rice remained dry at the end of the reading, it was declared guilty. And in Africa, suspects in a crime had to pass each other (while the judge told the audience the essence of the crime) a fragile bird's egg. It was believed that the guilty, being unable to cope with his excitement, inevitably crushed the eggshell in his palms.
Both then and now, excitement was an indirect sign of a crime committed.
How to determine excitement by external signs?
This question has always been relevant. If we want to understand ourselves and our neighbor, we want to understand the reason for our own and the other person's agitation. And for this we must first determine the moment when our spirit begins to disturb something. Then we will understand why a person is worried. For an attentive interlocutor, everything is extremely transparent.
- The first obvious sign of excitement is rapid breathing and often redness of the skin of the face. At the moment this feeling arises, a person experiences acute internal discomfort, which causes external manifestations: by rapid breathing, the body tries to eliminate the lack of oxygen caused by a more frequent heartbeat, and the face turns red for the same reason - due to increased blood flow. By the way, nostrils often swell due to rapid breathing.
- The person blinks or squints their eyes frequently. As an option - the so-called "shifting eyes". This is due to the fact that, having lost control over their emotions, a person cannot focus on something specific - a conversation, an act.
- Because of dry mouth (the ancient Chinese were right!), lips also dry. Therefore, a person often licks or bites them.
- We all know that a person can tremble with fear. Nervous trembling is a clear sign of excitement.
- Often perspiration appears above the upper lip or on the forehead. Increased sweating is a reaction of some hormones to the increased activity of others.
- Trying to hide the excitement, a person is exaggeratedly focused on some insignificant work of the hands - he twirls the ring on his finger, pulls at the edge of the clothes, etc. Or, on the contrary, he does it completely unconsciously.
How to determine the excitement of the voice?
Since anxiety is an internal discomfort associated with the fact that a person is temporarily out of his usual way of life, he is given out by signs that are difficult to control by will. How do you determine that a person is worried by his voice? The answer is simple: for any changes in the voice. It can be a tremor, a change in timbre, all associated with the same dry mouth. This may be a change in the rate of speech. For example, a person begins to speak more slowly, because, trying to cope with excitement, he focuses on thinking over phrases. But more often he talks incessantly and speaks outright nonsense. And if you hear it, there are no other signs of how to understand that a person is worried.
Often, trying to cope with excitement and control their speech, a person speaks through his teeth.
And yet it is worth bearing in mind: all of the above does not always mean excitement
First, insecure and shy people almost always experience symptoms of excitement: their face turns red, their mouth dries, their hands sweat and their voice trembles. But after you determine that a person is very worried, and tell him about it, you will be very surprised. Because only then you will see what real excitement is. Insecure people are completely lost when they are told about the external manifestations of their feelings.
Secondly, anxiety as a temporary state is on a par with anxiety, and to understand where one ends and the second begins is often beyond the power of even experienced psychologists.
How do you determine that a person is worried?
- All people have different signs of excitement, someone's voice changes, they tremble
hands, someone quickly runs away from the conversation, and someone knows how to behave
in the hands that does not give out excitement .... - Easily) . Some start talking faster than usual. Others, on the contrary, slow down speech, as if thinking through each word before pronouncing it. Some begin to gesticulate vigorously with their hands. Others close them into a castle and hide them behind their backs. By the way, walking down the street and automatically picking leaves on trees is also nervous, a person is worried, sometimes without realizing it. The intonation of the voice also betrays excitement. Someone's voice is trembling. And someone, on the contrary, depicts artificial steadfastness. I can identify without seeing the person. And without even hearing). And at a distance. I generally feel the state of mind of people.
- Something fiddles or twirls in the hand.
- By voice, if in the internet, then questions.
- running eyes
always doing something with his hands, mnt for example a napkin or a piece of paper
does not stay in one place
An attentive person will not disregard the sensual experiences of another. Why? Because experiences, or excitement, are behaviors that go beyond the usual. Therefore, at all times people have been interested in recognizing the signs of such sensations and their causes. Since ancient times, mankind has invented various ways to find out that a person is worried. To better understand the topic, you need to understand why we all get a wave of unpleasant feelings from time to time.
Why are we worried?
There can be many reasons for excitement. This can be a period of acute love, when one thought about the subject of love makes the heart beat faster. A person is acutely experiencing the expectation of a meeting with the object of love, and when meeting with him, the excitement, as they say, can go off scale.
Or a person may worry in anticipation of the unknown - for example, before meeting a stranger or before an event that goes beyond the ordinary. This feeling can be pleasant (for example, waiting for the moment of marriage or the wedding night) or unpleasant (for example, waiting for a plane flight, if you are basically afraid of heights).
Often a person is worried when he does wrong or tells a lie. However, many people also experience when they need to defend their innocence. How to understand where is one, where is the other, and in general, how do you determine that a person is very worried?
What unites these signs?
If we combine all these cases, we can conclude that excitement overtakes us in those moments when we are not confident in ourselves. Therefore, it has always been important for human relationships to understand the cause of this feeling, whether it is one's own or a manifestation of another person's anxiety.
In this case, if someone behaves differently, how do you determine that the person is very worried?
This question has always preoccupied humanity.
One of the causes of a person's excitement is a lie. Therefore, since the first human communities began to form, it has become extremely important to identify lies. Why? In the Bible, the enemy of God, Satan, is called the father, that is, the progenitor of lies (the word "Satan" is translated as "adversary", and the second well-known nickname of this spiritual person is "devil", "slanderer"). Therefore, on earth it was important to identify those who did not live according to the laws of God, but according to the laws of his opponent and slanderer, for such people necessarily became criminals.
That is why the first statesmen of human society were not presidents or even kings, but judges.
One way to identify the perpetrator is to look for signs of agitation. For example, how do you determine that a person is very worried, visually? His mouth tends to dry out, and
In ancient times, for example, in ancient China, a suspected lie was given a handful of dry rice in his mouth at the time the accusation was read out. If the rice remained dry at the end of the reading, it was declared guilty. And in Africa, suspects in a crime had to pass each other (while the judge told the audience the essence of the crime) a fragile bird's egg. It was believed that the guilty, being unable to cope with his excitement, inevitably crushed the eggshell in his palms.
Both then and now, excitement was an indirect sign of a crime committed.
How to determine excitement by external signs?
This question has always been relevant. If we want to understand ourselves and our neighbor, we want to understand the reason for our own and the other person's agitation. And for this we must first determine the moment when our spirit begins to disturb something. Then we will understand why a person is worried. For an attentive interlocutor, everything is extremely transparent.
- The first obvious sign of excitement is rapid breathing and often redness of the skin of the face. At the moment this feeling arises, a person experiences acute internal discomfort, which causes rapid breathing, the body tries to eliminate the lack of oxygen caused by a more frequent heartbeat, and the face turns red for the same reason - due to increased blood flow. By the way, nostrils often swell due to rapid breathing.
- The person blinks or squints their eyes frequently. As an option - the so-called "shifting eyes". This is due to the fact that, having lost control over their emotions, a person cannot focus on something specific - a conversation, an act.
- Because of (the ancient Chinese were right!), lips also dry. Therefore, a person often licks or bites them.
- We all know that a person can tremble with fear. Nervous trembling is a clear sign of excitement.
- Often perspiration appears above the upper lip or on the forehead. Increased sweating is a reaction of some hormones to the increased activity of others.
- Trying to hide the excitement, a person is exaggeratedly focused on some insignificant work of the hands - he twirls the ring on his finger, pulls at the edge of the clothes, etc. Or, on the contrary, he does it completely unconsciously.
How to determine the excitement of the voice?
Since anxiety is an internal discomfort associated with the fact that a person is temporarily out of his usual way of life, he is given out by signs that are difficult to control by will. How do you determine that a person is worried by his voice? The answer is simple: for any changes in the voice. It can be a tremor, a change in timbre, all associated with the same dry mouth. This may be a change in the rate of speech. For example, a person begins to speak more slowly, because, trying to cope with excitement, he focuses on thinking over phrases. But more often he talks incessantly and speaks outright nonsense. And if you hear it, there are no other signs of how to understand that a person is worried.
Often, trying to cope with excitement and control their speech, a person speaks through his teeth.
And yet it is worth bearing in mind: all of the above does not always mean excitement
First, insecure and shy people almost always experience symptoms of excitement: their face turns red, their mouth dries, their hands sweat and their voice trembles. But after you determine that a person is very worried, and tell him about it, you will be very surprised. Because only then you will see what real excitement is. Insecure people are completely lost when they are told about the external manifestations of their feelings.
Secondly, anxiety as a temporary state is on a par with anxiety, and to understand where one ends and the second begins is often beyond the power of even experienced psychologists.
